It's seems like one of the biggest cosmic jokes that women hit their sexual peak between 38 and 46, and for men, it's all downhill after 19. I personally thing that men get better (and certainly know way more about women) as they get older. …

I've been spending a great deal of time of late wondering about the elusive qualities of chemistry and attraction. What are the qualities that cause you to fall in love, in lust, or just spark off someone new? Why is it that after years of…

As a kid I was a big X-men fan.  I'm dating myself, but I remember the first Marvel X-men comic issue, (way better than Spidey), and even as a kid, thought Wolverine was very interesting. Loved Hugh Jackman in the X-men movie, I thought…

The thing about being a sex therapist is that people pull you aside at parties to ask you advice. If its a quick question, I'm happy to help. Well usually. It's the guys who see me in the grocery store that want to shoe me the sores that have…

I have a few friends and patients (almost all men), who need some advice on making the connection, and meeting the right woman. The thing is, I see them all making the same simple mistakes that keep them from being in a relationship. Good guys,…

I got a revised edition of Gina Ogden's book "Women who love Sex", and remembered why I love this little tome. What a great thing it is to celebrate Women who want it. Without a slutty lable, well researched, fluid (a little clinical, not so…

I'm on a list serve of The Erotic Writers Association. If somebody is doing an erotic anthology, or looking to publish a Harlequin-like serious bodice ripper, here is where they go looking for writers. The requests are serious, and you never…

I was told a story recently from a married women, out with her husband at a bar she didn't usually frequent, who found herself dirty dancing with a lesbian tradeswoman to the delight of her husband and the rest of the bar. She said it was liberating…

If someone had asked me before this summer what I thought the most common fetish was, I would be hard pressed to choose between cross-dressing, or feet. After seeing the number of patients this summer who were all fixated on the feel, texture,…