Why hot sex gets hotter after 40
There is a belief put forward by sex experts that women reach their sexual peak somewhere starting in their late 30's and ending anywhere from their 40's to menopause depending on who you read. That's not much consolation to the 20 odd million…
Desire Cancun – Not your parent's vacation spot
With snow piled to the windows here in the frozen north, a young girl's fancy turns to thoughts of..... frolicking naked. At least mine do. The joys of being a sex therapist are that I have to lead the way when asked about current trends…
a New Year, time for more sex
It's been a crazy time. I've moved, re-invented myself, re-organized my life, and am now looking at the beginning of an incredible year. I was at a New Year's Eve party last night and asked this crazy Californian if he had any resolutions.…
Its all about my piggy's
I'm a little vain about my toes. Cute, well cared for, (a bit beat up because of high heel blisters, and walking barefoot for six months of the year), but they are symmetrical, and they do me well. Considering I've had my figure faults,…
Why I want to have sex admist the wildlife
It's November 1st in Canada, and instead of digging out from the first snowfall of the year, I saw someone in shorts yesterday. Almost hit 18 degrees for a very civilized Halloween. Maybe there is something to this global warming thing.…
Air conditioned ejaculations
I've heard of something new sexually that I hadn't heard of before. I have a friend (yes, a friend), that tells of his difficulty in ejaculating when his body temperature is elevated. He can become like the energizer bunny thrusting away, and…
Another conversation about blowjobs
I sometimes wonder if anyone else has these surreal conversations. I assume they do, as I think of myself as an ordinary girl with a cool job, and a mind that's just open to possibilities. It just opens to sex more often than not.
Here's the…
Why making me laugh turns me on
When you ask women about the top things they find sexy in a man, and you get a bunch of different answers. Things like great ass, smile, hands, attentive, good father, well dressed etc. But almost everyone of those women list a…
Making babies…As much an art as science
I am very grateful for reproductive choices. I live in a country where I have access to free health care, and was able to get the best gynaecologist on the planet to tie my tubes without any fuss or fanfair. I can manage my own fertility, and…
The mysterious vulva folds
I was reminded this weekend that everyone is unique and that sexuality is a fluid and never a "one size fits all" brush". You would think that given how many people with different issues that I treat, that the indiviual preference and variety…