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Why you should pay attention to the messages from your genitals

I was talking to clients about what happens when they don’t take care of their sexual health. Yes we know we have to eat better yes we know we have to eat her veggies and not drink as much according to the new Canadian rules about alcohol.

But one of the things we don’t do is pay attention to you know quirky things that happened to us between our knees and our waists.


I will say that sex is your early warning system it tells you when somethings wrong.

I’ve had young guys come in who have erectile disfunction in are telling me about their how their father died early of a heart attack and that they hadn’t been to a doctor in five years. When you do their blood pressure is through the roof. You immediately get them into a referral for a triple bypass because if the small blood vessels are clogged the big ones can be too.

I’m a sex therapist I’m not a doctor but boy do I see some stuff that raises some eyebrows and has me running for the phone to give clients a physician referral.

ED can be a sign of heart problems.


There’s a lot of women with pelvic floor challenges painful intercourse issues around lubrication.

Vaginal atrophy lesions that can be easily fixed by visit to urologist for a long time urologist were surgeons all they wanted to do is cut but a lot of them do you quality of life issues and are trying to make things better.


I certainly where we are it takes a while to get into one but if you’ve got a problem sexually you may think that they’d be the better choice
Asking for a specialist there is no shame in your doctor referral
If you have scrotal concerns do you have a lump. Or your penis is bending to one side when it’s a wrecked a little bit of Petronie’s then seeing a urologist is a great thing.

It’s a couple of urologist where I live that do both sound and laser techniques to increase erectile disfunction by 60% Its considered cosmetics and although it’s not free and sure as hell isn’t cheap improves erectile disfunction by a significant amount in 8 visits.

Sex is part of the human condition the world is better when we have se.

If you’re struggling with your desire and your equipment it’s time to go to your doctor and ask for a referral to a urologist

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How to get laid. And how men screw up to push women away

I’ve been doing a series on Tiktok on “How to get laid”. This is less about dating and more about finding an abundance of sexual partners. I have over 15,000 followers (nobody was more surprised than I was) so follow me at wearetheducklings (the cool name of my social group @ wearetheducklings.com).

What I have been talking about is ways to not scare off potential sexual rendezvous. What many men don’t seem to realize is that women want, need & like sex. We just need to feel valued, safe, not judged, and secure in order to let loose. Give us a safe way to let loose and we are putty in your hands.

Here is how men screw things up. I’ve been helping a close friend of mine find potential partners. She is looking both for men to have casual sex with and men to date.  She’s beautiful, smart, kind, single and you would think it would be easy.  I know how many potential partners there are out there for her. She came to the cottage this past weekend and I set her up on Bumbl. I picked her pictures, wrote her ads (I can do it for you too if you want to book a session) and started 23 conversation with men she matched with over the weekend. I couldn’t believe how man of them blew it.

If you bare a guy who has more dates than they know what to do with then this advice may not be for you. But she’s attracted to nerdy guys who like tech, gaming, scifi, & who can also carry on a conversation. She’s kind and is less concerned about looks. A great all round person who loves sex. Those guys aren’t getting thousands of matches. After going through pages of guys on the aps ( and writing over 40 men) this is what I found were the issues with the guys that couldn’t score with a kind, friendly, willing girl who wants to get touched.

  1. Terrible pictures! No bathroom selfies, get a friend to take an outside, SMILING picture of yourself. Humans smile at each other to show we are safe. No arms crossed I look cool pics.
  2. When you compliment a woman you don’t know (even if she wants sex) stick to compliments above her neck or below her knees. Or mention her dog, guitar, location but do not comment on her body parts!!!!
  3. Don’t criticize her profile or pictures. You don’t know her and it will kill it right there. I had 3 guys immediately ask for body shots. Are you Fuck’n kidding me? How to shut down things immediately.
  4. Be interesting. She had a few that were polite but had nothing to talk about on the first call. Read a paper and have something to say about three topics of interest.
  5. Be engaged. The first guy she had a video call with was watching TV while he was talking to her. Sigh. Rude and clueless.
  6. Talk about things that make you seem safe. Playing with your kids, dog, nephew, talking your Mom shopping, volunteering for the food bank etc.
  7. Let her bring up sex first. Don’t even imply it. No words like play, sensuous, kink etc until she opens the door. And then you are in.
  8. CHILL OUT. Quality women are busy and may take a day or two to get back to you. Don’t bombard with messages and come across as needy. And expect it to take 3 relaxed meetings MINIMUM before she gets naked.
  9. NO DICK PIC’s. Unless she begs you.

I have a bunch more. And I coach both men and women on how to connect and get laid. Follow my tiktok videos and know that for a $140 I can set you up and coach you on how to get laid. Guaranteed.

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Men and performance anxiety. Why not keeping it up is all about the butterflies in your stomach

I regularly have Men in my office under the age of 50 struggling with erections. These aren’t older men with blood pressure, diabetes, and cholesterol, these are client after client of fit, active men who are freaking about that they are going to screw up a sexual encounter and are afraid to even start. These are guys who lose their erections because they worry they aren’t going to be hard enough. And sure enough they manifest a limper penis than is needed for intercourse. Or men who won’t go on a date for fear of failing in the bedroom. It’s the most common thing I see with men and can affect up to 25% of men in North America.

According to the Guardian article, “Many believe erectile dysfunction (ED), also known as impotence, is becoming more prevalent in young men. A recent study of 2,000 British men found that 50% of those in their 30s reported difficulties in getting and maintaining an erection. But Nicole Prause, a neuroscientist who specialises in sexual behaviour, says there is little scientific and statistical evidence of a growth in the prevalence of ED. “When you look representatively, there has not been an increase in erectile dysfunction. I see stats all the time reading, ‘It’s increased 1,000% in young men.’ But there’s no paper that says that.”

I feel badly for men. I’ve written before that culturally male identity is very strongly linked with their virility, penis size and performance. Be big enough, hard enough, last long enough, have some game in bed and generally be all that and more. It’s a hard place to be for modern men. I really do get it. It’s a physical reaction to a psychological situation. Just like what happens when you get the butterflies about doing a big work presentation.

What happens is the concern about staying hard (or lasting long) increases the cortisol levels and increases the chemical reactions that impede the release of nitric oxide that causes erections. Then men lose erections and the next time becomes worse as the anxiety builds.

So what can you do?

There are mediation,. mindfulness & hypnosis. That does work for some men but it takes a while. I have an immediate plan that solves the problem and overpowers this kind of sexual anxiety. There is also Sex Therapy to deal with touch, intimacy, upping your foreplay and oral skills and generally increasing your Sex IQ

But if you are looking to get started right away by initial suggestions are very straightforward.

1. Take 100mg of Kamagra or Cialis and hour before sexual activity.

2. Start taking estrogen blockers (any health food store) to help boost the testosterone.

3. Get yourself a leather snap cock ring. They have enough give to prevent tissue damage but act like a bra for your penis in supporting your erection.

4. Consider some low grade THC or CBD gummies. They decrease inflammation and help deal with the hamster wheel in your head.

5. Work out a positive mantra for sexual anxiety. I have a quick audio download I can send to anyone who signs up for my newsletter.

If that doesn’t work call me. We can do a 30 minute session (by Zoom or facetime) for $75 with immediate results. Let’s solve this problem.

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Women’s penis size preference. A new article and thoughts from a Sex Therapist

It turns out that I am one of only a few therapists who specialize in penis size. I honestly thought more clinicians saw clients in their office who struggled with penile dysmorphia (dislike or issues with their appendages). It’s such a common theme among the cool & amazing male clients I see. Many guys with good jobs, a sense of humour, friendly outlooks are stopped in their tracks by a perception that their penises don’t measure up.

As I often comment, there are lots of other things you can do sexually that doesn’t involve a large penis. Most of the men I speak to who feel that they are smaller than average are outstanding at oral sex, have a collection of toys (and know how to use them), & are exceptional at hand work.

There aren’t many studies that honestly look at women’s preference about penis size. My own anecdotal experience is that most women prefer average sized dicks. They don’t hurt. The paper published in 2015 said women preferred girth to length. And based on 2d models and questionnaires suggested women preferred men about 6 inches erect.

“Women’s preferences for penis size may affect men’s comfort with their own bodies and may have implications for sexual health.  Women (N = 75) selected amongst 33, 3D models. Women recalled model size accurately using this method, although they made more errors with respect to penis length than circumference. Women preferred a penis of slightly larger circumference and length for one-time (length = 6.4 inches/16.3 cm, circumference = 5.0 inches/12.7 cm) versus long-term (length = 6.3 inches/16.0 cm, circumference = 4.8 inches/12.2 cm) sexual partners.”

If you are a man that doesn’t have a 6 inch penis it doesn’t mean you are out of luck in satisfying women. The study went on to use models (or dildoes & dilators) for the women to try. For women who occasionally want to feel a larger penis the strap-on toys or other phallic objects work just as well. I find that the couples I work with have great success in increasing the sensuality of their sex lives – as well as increased satisfaction in using a variety of different sized toys. It’s one of the things we work through in therapy very successfully. I have the best sources and prices. Consider a short term, Zoom session to calm down the obsession you have with your small penis. And concern you have about satisfying a partner. Let’s talk about it with a relaxed 30 minute session to start.

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No she doesn’t want to see your dick. The etiquette of online dating for men.

Don’t be a dick

Blunt lessons on dating and flirting in the digital age

By An Anonymous Duckling

Yup, this is yet another article on Internet dating. Unlike many such articles written by guys in the last twenty years, you won’t find anything on opening lines, or advice on being “alpha” or edgy or any of that.

 

For starters, women are past that, particularly the women who have lived a little. Secondly, we’re Ducklings. where the ethos is first and foremost about actual interaction and being a decent person.

 

The lessons in this article were acquired over many years of online dating, observation, and being a sounding board for women who have heard and seen it all.  In somewhat random order, here is what I’ve learned.

 

  1. You are not unique and special until you prove that you are

 

Whether in online dating or a community like the Ducklings, the reality is that women have choices. They’ve likely interacted with a lot of guys, and it takes more than a brief conversation before they become comfortable enough to want to spend one-on-one time with you. And no, she doesn’t want to see your penis yet.  She knows what penises look like, and no matter how awesome yours is, she’s seen one before, and seeing a picture of yours really isn’t going to make it more likely that she’ll be touching it. Unless of course she explicitly asks for one, then have fun!

 

In short, just exchanging a couple of messages or a brief conversation at an event aren’t going to make you stand out. It takes time to make a connection, and until you do, you’re just another guy who has hit on her that month.

 

  1. Being a decent person makes you stand out.

 

It’s a sad reality. Between the catfishers, scammers and the guys who want to meet “at your place” within five minutes of first contact, women who have spent any time online have seen and heard it all.  Now, you’re a Duckling which means you’re a decent person, right?

 

So show it.

 

Don’t bring up sex out of context. Listen to her. Be a friend.

 

And seriously, a lot of guys have passed those tests, been ok during the “let’s meet” date, and then shot themselves in the foot by assuming that first meeting would end with a quick blowjob.

 

Don’t be that guy – they are unbelievably common. Some women are actually on-edge during a first meetup because they are bracing for the sudden and unwelcome sound of a zipper being undone. Guys who find a way to make it clear that they aren’t “that guy” will have a much better time. The blowjobs will come later.

 

 

  1. She knows that you know that she has boobs. You don’t need to talk about them.

 

It seems to happen less often now than in the early days of online chat/dating, but its still an issue – at some point early in the online conversation, the guy will ask about bra size or ask for a boob pic.

 

Sure, maybe it works sometimes. But as a general lesson – mentioning her boobs in any way makes it less likely that you’ll get to touch them.

 

Women want to be lusted over, but it can’t be indiscriminate. They want you to like their boobs, but they don’t want to be treated like a collection of sexual body parts. Its complicated, but its all part of people wanting to have an actual connection.  Ducklings seek that connection. Make that connection, and good things will happen. And it may not be with the first women (or the third) that you meet, but it will happen.

 

  1. She’s not going to be impressed, so don’t bother trying.

 

This one’s complicated.  Firstly, know that you’re quite likely not going to be the most accomplished guy she’s ever spoken to. Yes, she wants to know that you’re a functioning adult who won’t need to borrow money. But beyond that, let your personal qualities speak for themselves.

 

Yes, many women will want a guy who can at least fit in and can afford their share of a winter getaway. Respect that.

 

But, coming from a guy who was married to a former NHL spouse, trust me – you’re not going to impress her with money or the circles you’ve been in. I would have been a fool to try. The truly valuable quality is what I mentioned earlier – being a decent person and be the person you’re projecting yourself to be (more about that later).

 

Remember that no matter how subtle you think your bragging is, she’s heard it before and sees right through it.  Besides, different women are impressed by different things; trust her to figure that out for herself.

 

  1. There isn’t a girl shortage

 

This comes down to both not being a jerk if she says “no”, and not wasting your own time with someone where the connection isn’t really going to happen. You can’t force it.

 

There truly are a lot of women looking for a connection, and this article just touches on why they have a hard time finding a match. I’m convinced that there are more available women than there are guys who “get it”. What this boils down to is that if you behave like a decent person, then there is a woman for you. She might not be one of the first ten you flirt with, but she’s out there. Knowing this makes it much easier to move on if she’s not interested.

 

Face it – if you’ve had significant interaction with someone and you’re still unsure if she’s into you or not, she likely isn’t. Move on gracefully and don’t become “that guy” with a reputation as a pest.

 

  1. Be true to yourself – don’t adopt kinks and alt lifestyles just as a means to meet women

 

Submissive women see it all the time: Men who have self-declared as dominant, bought a leather hat, and let it be known they’d like to partner with submissive women. The experienced women see right through it. They all have stories of the guys who couldn’t lead a dog to their food dish who have decided that being a dom is their best route to sexual adventure.

 

Don’t be that guy. A Dom-Sub relationship puts the sub’s emotional and physical security at risk if it isn’t led by someone who gets it. Real damage can be done by people who don’t understand the dynamic and who don’t realize the relationship is really about the sub’s need.

 

The same requirement for authenticity applies for people declaring that they are poly or a swinger. None of this rules out experimentation – just declare your curiosity up front and you will learn the right way what’s for you while minimizing hurt feelings (or worse).

 

 

Interestingly, these six lessons mesh nicely with the Duckling mantra. Be authentic. Be nice. Be social. Respect boundaries. Whether on the new Duckling Dating site, other online dating sites, or at events, these lessons won’t guarantee that you’ll meet someone, but they will help you stand out.

 

Men encounter their own issues with women during the “finding someone” phase. It is definitely a struggle. By being a decent and authentic true version of yourself and not treating women as a collection of body parts or a kind outlet, then you’re well on your way to standing out above the crowd.

So besides Duckling dating spend the $500 and specific, engaged online dating coaching during Covid with Canada’s leading Sex Therapist Sue McGarvie. She will write your ad, help you with pictures, coach you on what to say, where to put it and how to connect with someone in real life. It’s time to do something about it. Reach out to Sue now.

 

 

 

Can you get dependent on boner pills like Cialis & Viagra?

I think boner pills should be in every guy over 30’s medicine cabinet.

Every man struggles with a bout of ED at some point in their lives. And it gets much more frequent the further north of 30 you go.

Cialis, Viagra, Kamagra are big tools for men who come home tired, are on different kinds of medications that affect their erections, or struggle with anxiety about their performance. Performance anxiety is the most common affliction I see with men in my office as a Sex Therapist. It manifests as inability or loss of erections, premature ejaculation, and generalized avoidance of sex.

In my office I talk about cock rings, penile pumps, something called “soft-on’s” (vs hard-on’s), pleasure, intimacy, penile injections, suppositories, supplements, EFT for anxiety among other techniques. And I talk about boner pills. They are a great tool. And they affect your body about as much as a Tylenol & are non-addictive.

The challenge is that sometimes  taking the pills becomes a psychological habit. Being hard enough to pound nails makes you want to stay on the Cialis all the time. And soon getting a natural erection doesn’t cut it anymore. Or your anxiety goes up when you aren’t on it and you end up being constantly on the medication.

It’s easy to get. My Dad said he saw it sold on the golf courses and in the gas stations in Thailand. It’s readily available online.  In Mexico the lifestyle resort that I was speaking at had upwards of 500 mg in their gift shop.

I often get asked if it’s okay to perpetually stay on Cialis. Physically millions of men are prescribed the daily 5 mg dose so medically the answer is yes. Psychologically it may be a different story.

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Men's Group and Scotch tasting. Why you should send your guy (or join) a men's group

I was asked recently to explain why men’s group was worth the money. It’s inexpensive ($25 a week for friendship, support, relevant and real information), friends, and scotch) but the group is always greater than the sum of it’s parts. It’s a safe place to be a guy and get mentored and helped by other men of all ages. Why it’s worth the money is that it can be life changing.
It’s especially good for people who are exploring new aspects of their sexuality or starting to dip a toe in ethical non-monogamy.
Open relationships with guidance, ethical non-monogamy can be wonderful. However, a worst case outcome is that you lose your marriage. Our members have stepped on all kinds of land mines in their journeys. They openly share the pain, the solutions and knowledge that cannot be acquired anywhere else. Combined with friendship and a shoulder to lean on, the group is indispensable. If this is your path, men’s group is the most significant resource that can be purchased.
There are men in the group simply trying to understand women, date, up their social, image and sexual skills and everyone there speaks the language.
It runs regularly but it’s about to start again for eight weeks. Tuesdays (starting Jun 16th, 2020 both in person in Westboro or virtually). Send the $200 either below or by etransfer to bdspratt@gmail.com. It’s run by Blaik Spratt and he’s spectacular. I can’t recommend it enough.


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A men's group on Non-Monogamy, men's health with laughter and scotch may be exactly what the Therapist ordered.


I make sure I’m out Tuesday night. It’s the Men’s group and scotch tasting in my house (run by my husband Blaik) and it’s full of hot men talking about women and finding their own masculine process. Apparently much of it is done through laughter, soul searching, and no-bullshit direct feedback. It runs both in person and VIRTUALLY by messenger.
It’s been magic to watch. When I come home even 30 minutes after the three hour evening has ended there is still half the group hanging out and finishing discussions. I feel like the kid sister and while the guys are polite, they really want to talk to each other. And I don’t have a penis.
They have covered topics such as;
-What is sexy
-How to communicate with women (and each other)
-Models of relationships. Poly, multiple loves and juggling partners
-How to get out of the friend zone
-Being your authentic self
-What women wish men would know
-The target of being a stand up guy
-Men chase, women choose. The science of love
-Upping your man game
-Your image and identity
-Toxic masculinity and mutual respect
and more….
It turns out there are a few studies that say that joining a men’s group is one of the the top 5 things men can do for their health and longevity. Finding friends that get it and allowing yourself to be heard is invaluable. The men are all ages, and everyone has a story.
Here is the recent list from the Good Men’s Project about what you get out of a men’s group.
Here are 6 reasons why you must join a Men’s Group today:
You can’t see your own blind spots
The masculine grows through challenge and feedback
Support when times get tough
Find like-minded friends
Improves Intimate relationships. Understand Women
Loneliness is dangerous
If you are a man who lives in Ottawa and are around on a Tuesday night consider joining the men’s group and scotch tasting. You don’t have to drink scotch but you do have to want to join in to the coolest group around. Send Blaik an email at bdspratt@gmail.com. $25 a week (4 week minimum). It’s friends, scotch, fun, stories, community, therapy and a night to just be yourself. Be the man you want to be. And the women in your life will love you for it.

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A men's group about all kinds of relationships to keep you sane while in isolation

There is a virtual men’s group starting this week. It’s irreverent, authentic, funny, and will give you a space to talk about unconventional relationships. And the best part- It’s free. And absolutely magic. I can’t recommend it enough. I’ve been watching the group as it’s going through growing pains and it’s evolved into something authentic and chewy. It’s got Canadian sensibilities of kindness and humour. It’s safe but not politically overly correct. Send a note if you are interested.
Hugs,
Sue

Here are the details:
Hi guys,
I wanted to at least get us talking again. These are shitty times and friendship/community is more important than many things right now. It keeps us sane, literally.
So, grab a drink, open your phone, computer or tablet and please join in.
I am only offering this to try it out. There is no charge. I am hoping to have somewhere between 10 and 15, and the call is to last as long as there is interest. I will try to run it as a regular meeting so there is some structure.
If it is an amazing success, we can invite others and officially start the group. If it doesn’t draw people or work well, we will keep waiting this out and re-group when we are allowed.
I have tried different platforms but I keep liking messenger the best. If you are interested, I will create the group and we can get going next Tuesday 21st at 7pm..
Please RSVP (bdspratt at gmail .com) if you are interested in trying.
Thanks and stay safe.
Blaik

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What women find sexy. And suggestions if you are struggling to attract women

 

 

 

 

It’s been amazing to watch the guys in the men’s group change. From awkward, bitter and confused about women to being coached by other guys to success. As Blaik says “the group is 25% education, 50% genuine sharing, and another 25% doubled-over in laughter”.

It’s hard to figure women out if you don’t have a bossy older sister like me or other guys to clearly (and in guy-speak) tell you what to do and where you went wrong. As the saying goes, “the masculine is defined by dialogue, challenge and feedback”.

I’m adding the new list coming out of the research on “what women find sexy about men”. If you are looking for coaching Blaik or I can help one-on one, or consider joining the Tuesday night men’s group.

“Huge dicks, in my experience, tend to be attached to huge dicks who have no idea what to do with them”
Leadership skills

Things women find hot….
Stubble- the masculine bad boy thing
Humour!!!!!
Show us you do altruistic things
Pictures with dog, guitars, and cool cars attract women online
Play hard to get. Neediness is the #1 turn off
In one speed-dating experiment, women were more attracted to men who were mindful — present, attentive, and nonjudgmental.
Wear red. It works for both men and women
Take small risks – start a fire, fly a glider, scuba dive etc.
Show that you have a Busy life
Be Passionate about something. Save the river, cuddle alpacas
Cool socks???? It came up on every study. Add it to your Xmas list
Smells nice. Find a cologne that speaks to you and wear a small amount every day
Own your flaws. Know that you suck at volleyball. Or whatever
All women are looking for adventure. Small road trips, activities that are somehow adventurous.
Roll up your sleeves to your forearms.
Have male friends and be a good friend to your buddies

I strongly encourage you to consider the men’s group and scotch tasting. Either virtually or in person. It’s real, funny, relevant, warm and connected. And Blaik hits it out of the park. Find out more and join in. Less than $25 a week of outstanding therapy, information and connection.

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Why you (or a man in your life) needs a Men's group

I make sure I’m out Tuesday night. It’s the Men’s group and scotch tasting in my house (run by my husband Blaik) and it’s full of hot men talking about women and finding their own masculine process. Apparently much of it is done through laughter, soul searching, and no-bullshit direct feedback.
It’s been magic to watch. When I come home even 30 minutes after the three hour evening has ended there is still half the group hanging out and finishing discussions. I feel like the kid sister and while the guys are polite, they really want to talk to each other. And I don’t have a penis.
They have covered topics such as;
-What is sexy
-How to communicate with women (and each other)
-Models of relationships. Poly, multiple loves and juggling partners
-How to get out of the friend zone
-Being your authentic self
-What women wish men would know
-The target of being a stand up guy
-Men chase, women choose. The science of love
-Upping your man game
-Your image and identity
-Toxic masculinity and mutual respect
and more….
It turns out there are a few studies that say that joining a men’s group is one of the the top 5 things men can do for their health and longevity. Finding friends that get it and allowing yourself to be heard is invaluable. The men are all ages, and everyone has a story.
Here is the recent list from the Good Men’s Project about what you get out of a men’s group.
Here are 6 reasons why you must join a Men’s Group today:
You can’t see your own blind spots
The masculine grows through challenge and feedback
Support when times get tough
Find like-minded friends
Improves Intimate relationships. Understand Women
Loneliness is dangerous
If you are a man who lives in Ottawa and are around on a Tuesday night consider joining the men’s group and scotch tasting. You don’t have to drink scotch but you do have to want to join in to the coolest group around. Send Blaik an email at bdspratt@gmail.com. $25 a week (4 week minimum). It’s friends, scotch, fun, stories, community, therapy and a night to just be yourself. Be the man you want to be. And the women in your life will love you for it.

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Your sperm needs some TLC! How to get your boys in the best shape for the swim of their lives!

It’s amazing how many of my clients are struggling with fertility. Yes the recipe requires fresh eggs, and yes it’s important to spend some time naked and horizontal to conceive.  But male fertility after years of microwaving yogurt containers (full of bad estrogens that diminish sperm), and too many soccer balls to the gonads male infertility is on the rise. 
Thanks to the brilliant Orlando urologist for suggestions on keeping your sperm in tip top shape.  
1. The Magic Number – The magic number is 15 million – sperm per milliliter, that is. Infertility could be the result if the count is much lower than this benchmark.
2. Take a Lap – While a high sperm count is good, a high ‘swimming’ sperm count is also important. In general, about a quarter of the sperm will swim and drive your chances of achieving a pregnancy. For patients that have extremely low sperm count, doctors can often do surgical procedures to obtain sperm that can be used for in vitro fertilization (IVF).
3. Watch the Sauna – Causes of sperm production issues include higher temperatures such as when a man is frequently exposed to hot tubs or saunas, dilated blood vessels around the testicle (called varicocele), abnormal testosterone levels such as when a man takes testosterone injections, environmental factors and certain medications like hair loss medication.
4. New International Study – Sperm counts are dropping. Data presented at ASRM last month by IVI-Reproductive Medicine Associates Global (IVI-RMA Global) found that the proportion of men with normal total motile sperm counts is declining over time.
5. Boxers or Briefs? – Men should feel free to choose whatever underwear fits best without fertility concerns. While it was thought that perhaps briefs increased temperatures of the testicles and might affect sperm production, this is truly an old wives’ tale.
Oh note on boxers. Briefs hold your boys close to your body and keep the skin of your scrotum from stretching. You don’t want to have to throw your testicles over your shoulder as you age.