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So bored of the sex we have I want to scream! Why women are not speaking up about sexual excitement.

There is a great book that came out last year by Wednesday Martin called Untrue that explored (and blew up with research) the myths of female sexuality. Women only want romance, that they don’t like sex, and are happy with intercourse. As a young woman, I used to feel like a freak because none of the “truisms” about sex ever applied to me. I wanted wild, diverse, creative, passionate sex as often as I could get it.

Untrue outlined how women want sexual adventure far more than men. And how our sexuality is far more elusive and evasive that we knew. And that nobody tells you that keeping things hot and spicy 5, 10, 20 years into a relationship may be one of the hardest parts of staying married for decades.

As a Sex Therapist, I speak to women who don’t want sex. Much of that is physical (menopause, hormones, stress) some is relationships (I don’t like my partner), and much is that I’m so bored with doing the same thing over & over. Or I don’t get off by anything other that masturbating with my toy. Younger women are more likely speak up sexually. But anyone over 40 comes from a generation of women thinking “is it over yet?”

This comment was in the Guardian (one of my favourite newspapers)

“For two years now, I’ve been deceiving my husband. He thinks I still enjoy sex with him – in reality, it bores me stiff and leaves me cold. My husband and I always made time to enjoy adventurous sex. I still love him as deeply as ever. To reject him, or suggest that he does without sex, would feel unspeakably cruel. To fake pleasure seems deceitful, so gradually we’ve shifted to the kind of male-centred sex I put up with in my 20s, which speeds things up. He’s not remarked on this shift and I made sure it happened slowly. Perhaps he has guessed the reason why, although I never let my boredom or irritation show.”

It’s a common theme.  And we are struggling to find our voices and ask for what we really need.

Coaching helps you understand, articulate and explore your desires. The choices are to suck it up and live with a dying sex life.  Or find a way to live with incredible passion & fulfillment. If it isn’t fun you won’t want to do it. Let me pend 30 minutes with you, send you piles of resources including 75 different things to do in bed, access to the toy testing council and inexpensive sex toys, & options to join virtual discussions on making sex hot. Let’s talk about it.

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28 days of sexy Covid lock down. Suggestions to keep things steamy while isolating

Covid has changed everything this year.  It’s changed my practice (from face to face to virtual), it’s changed my social group (check out the Ducklings website for our virtual events), and it has amplified whatever is going on in relationships. For some it’s a “staycation”. For others it’s a hostage situation.

But for couples who are spending more time together at home, the lockdown is more than just a chance to binge-watch a random Netflix series.  It’s a chance to get sexy together.

Women more than men have an optimal “sex time” of the day. With everyone around all day,  taking a moment for a nooner, some afternoon delight or mid-morning romps is at an all-time high. But how do you make it more than regular “meat & potatoes” sex?

I’m in lock down too and I have some up with a list of fun things you can do during your time inside. Some of it involves some inexpensive kit. I buy my toys from Pink Cherry as they are regularly much cheaper than elsewhere online – and they give me loyalty points.

So here is my list. And in this area I am walking the walk. While some experiences are better than others (and that’s a matter of a number of arousing variables) it’s great to try new things. So “on the eighth day of lockdown my true love did to me…”

Stay safe everyone.

Day 1. Go for a ride. Someone on top with a vibrating cockring.

Day 2. Cialis & morning wood. Try the scissor position for something new.

Day 3. Blindfold, ballgag, & blowjob

Day 4. Cosmo game. Pull a card and do exactly what it tell you to do.

Day 5. Shower sex. Do interesting things with soap.

Day 6. Apron on & nothing else. Use a different part of the body to get off. I have great success grinding against knees.

Day 7. Football handjob

Day 8. Wooden spoon on a bare bum. Paddle until you are pink & sensitized. Orgasm at will

Day 9. Reverse cowgirl with his shoulders on a chair, hips raised in a bridge pose

 

Day 10. Squirting pad and fisted in the morning.

Day 11. Rope bondage (easy to access at any open hardware store). Tied up and no place to go.

Day 12. Fantasy jar. Write at least 3 things each that you would like to try and read them together over your morning coffee.

Day 13. Get a little rough. Pulling hair, light scratching, pillow fight. See where it goes.

Day 14. Watch each other masturbate.

Day 15. Anal play. Lube, baby wipes, and use one finger with gentle tease the opening.

Day 16. Massage exchange

Day 17. Make a sex tape or take some nudes. Just for your eyes only.

Day 18. Sex and food. Maple syrup, whipped cream, cucumbers etc.

Day 19. Heat up some sex candles. Wax play can be very exciting.

Day 20. Challenge your partner to a game of strip poker or strip shots.

Day 21. Order a sex toy you’ve never tried. And may I suggest adding a pair of nipple clamps to the order?

Day 22. Try talking dirty. I like reading an erotic passage. That way I can say the words but it doesn’t come from me.

Day 23.  Porn watching together. See if you can find three clips on pornhub or ehamster that you both like.

Day 24. Go for a drive in the car and have car sex!

Day 25.  Take a sex quiz together. I think this one is the best of a bunch as it send your partner your answer by email.

Day 26. Turn off all the lights. Watch each other by candlelight only. Take some washable markers and draw on your partner’s body in the flickering lights.

Day 27. Go down on your partner while they are on a work call. Bonus points if they are on a Zoom call.

Day 28.  Seduce your partner. Striptease, dress up, nibble at their neck & try to distract them.

After lockdown you may be able to go the sex shop, go out to other places besides the grocery & drug store etc.

Check out what the Ducklings are doing and see if maybe there is a virtual event that may get your juices flowing.

 

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Dungeon tour with two Domme’s and BDSM exploratorium

Given that it has to be virtual (sigh) We will be doing a dungeon tour and the ABC’s of BDSM during a exploratorium. We will have a few different kinksters demonstrating their expertise virtually for Ducks. We have two Domme’s doing some kinky stuff on camera.

Whips, paddles, clips, clamps, rubber, cross-dressing, D/s partners, sadism, and more will be discussed (with some demo’s). It’s going to be crazy. LIVE, personal, sounding, flogging and more.

We are working to be responsible during the pandemic. But mental health and the need to for healthy community support is also vital. Getting out and feeling like the world is a good place with the kindest group of people anywhere helps.

Come join us. This is a 4ish Duck event. FREE for members and $15 for non-members. suem@rogers.com for the link or check out the website at www.wearetheducklings.com

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Boudoir/ Dude-oir and couples erotic shots happening July 12th, 2020!


It gives you time to get the covid hair fixed.
Come join us for an amazing afternoon of safe and sexy photos with two first rate photographers!
Boudoir for women, men and couples!
It’s Sunday, July 12 from 11 to 6 pm. We will book by appointment and work to keep everything clean and safe! Food, wine, professional makeup (for those without testicles) , amazing photographs, lingerie, and a chance to find your sexy selves! It’s part of the body image series.
Boudoir Photography and party with champagne, great food, friends, chocolate and sexy pictures!
We love doing boudoir. It’s becomes magical. Women feeling beautiful, empowered and the guys are happy to have something erotic and personal. Couples feel connected. Men get super hot dating photos. Anyone who has done them raves about them. We get top, professional makeup application and have two photographers in the building Anny B and Paul Chislett. By making sure we have economies of scale we can do the event for $150 per person or couple. So you can have together and alone for the same price. What a deal!
Look back on yourself when you are 80 and see how hot you really were! Do it for yourself, to torment the guys who might possibly see them with your beauty or give it as a for-his-eyes-only gift. Sexy couple photos are also welcome if you would prefer to do them together.
Mimosa’s, (champagne and orange juice) chocolate, and the sexiest photos you can imagine! It’s safe, discreet, private, and super fun! Women or couples, it’s sensuous (but safe), erotic and fun. Participants can wear whatever they would like (bring it with you) and you have time for one change of outfits. You have a private area for photo’s and it’s all relaxed and discreet. Professional makeup artist will be there to transform you. You need to have your own hair done when you arrive. It all happens on Sunday July 12 at a private house in Ottawa south. Address will be sent to participants.
So pictures, food, and community!
Bring something yummy to share and I’ll make up pitchers of our trademarked sangria and mimosa’s. We have limited room for photos so it is a first come first serve. Cost is $150 (either alone or together) which includes makeup, photo shoot, and two photographs. You may purchase the library of other shots (the ones where you aren’t blinking) directly from the photographer. They have different packages or just stick with the few amazing ones you are guaranteed. Given that there are upfront expenses, you need to pay in advance on the wearetheducklings.com/events website or by etranfer to bdspratt@gmail.com, or commit to paying in cash and NOT BAILING!
If you want one of those shots you can look at when you are 80, still hot for each other and goosing each other around the anniversary cake then this is the day for you. Think relaxed, loving, elegant with Ottawa’s premier boudoir photographer. If you’ve never had a sensuous photo of you and your sweetie taken, give it some thought. It’s unbelievably intimate and you can look back on yourself as the hot hot couple or have something to embarrass your kids with. We provide professional make up application, martini’s and fantastic food samplings along with a romance picture that will last a lifetime.
You bring whatever outfits you want to wear. Or have it clothing optional. It can be anything you feel sexy in. I’ve taken my picture in nothing but a Sens jersey. Smile. We also share food so bring a dish of munchies to pass around.

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5 things you can do to keep things intimate while locked down during the pandemic!

I feel like a caged cat. For six weeks I was pacing the house and stress baking. Now that I can get outside we are walking together (slapping mosquitoes but hey, that’s spring in Eastern Ontario) and the lockdown feels slightly less intrusive. With more time together during a pandemic it certainly doesn’t feel like a holiday. The stress of the unknown, lack of connection with friends and extended family and sameness is getting to everyone.
“Stress is at an all-time high for many couples. According to Dr. Gabor Maté, “three factors that universally lead to stress are uncertainty, lack of information, and the loss of control.” Prolonged exposure to these stressors, generated from COVID-19 and other circumstances, can result in allostatic load.
Allostatic load refers to the wear and tear on the body that accumulates when we are exposed to repeated or chronic stressors. These stressors can be internal, external, or both. While allostasis has been traditionally examined in individuals, it undoubtedly impacts couples.
On an interpersonal level, increased allostatic load may result in individuals experiencing difficulty in starting or maintaining relationships. When an individual is depressed, certain neurotransmitters aren’t functioning at an optimal level. Even the most doting and loving partner might not be able to conjure the experience of love or limerence, which is the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one’s feelings.”
Finding ways to be with each other in a positive way when you are fighting chronic stress is challenging. And men and women have different responses. For many sex is a stress reliever. For other’s it’s a definite mood killer. I am spending the pandemic talking to people in their cars who need to vent about their partner’s over exuberant interest or lack of interest.
I have been following a number of blogs that talk about using the uniqueness of the current situation to give your sex and love life a boost.
I wanted to summarize some of the suggestions for ways to up the connection while we wait for life to get back to normal. Here are some ways to keep things intimate during the isolation.
Be creative!
Order some discount costumes, download some free audio porn from Pornhub or film yourselves having sex.
Newness!
Human beings are inherently turned on by novelty and newness when it comes to sex. I have a list of 60 new things to try that you might not be doing sexually on my site. Or a list of 75 different things to do in the bedroom in a different blog. I’m happy to email them to you if you want to reach out. Things like taking the Mojoupgrade quiz and finding out if there is something your partner might be curious about that you didn’t know are also good suggestions for spicing things up.
The people who tried new things were three times more likely to report improvements in the bedroom than those who didn’t make any new additions.
Manage stress!
Bathe together, take a break from social media, massages, THC oil (it simply makes your genitals – not you stoned), meditate, naked exercise (or gardening!) or other gentle things that lower your stress load
Do some grooming together!
Treat your partner with the same care you would going out on any date. Even with hair and nail salons closed there are things you can do. One of the sexiest things that happened to me this month is my meticulous partner painting my nails and toes. And I cut his hair which is a truly intimate act. Wash each other’s back, do an oil rubdown, suntan together, or try one of those facemasks together. Grooming is an age old thing that brings you closer to each other.

Romantic Date Night at Home or picnic together!
I love picnics! We’ve been doing them in the backyard or on drives together. As Justin says, “plan a fun evening. For some, this might involve cooking your favorite meal together, ordering takeout or delivery from a special restaurant, having wine or cocktails while you watch the sunset or listen to music, watching a movie you’ve both been meaning to see, or trying an erotic game or role-play.The options are endless, and with a little creative thinking, you can craft a relaxing—or exciting—evening (depending on what you’re looking for) to fit any budget.”
This is time we will never have again. The more we can manage the stress and be together the greater the long-term impacts on you relationship will be. Reach out if you need some help. Otherwise be safe everyone.

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You have a 50% chance of getting dumped if you don't give oral sex

There is a great new survey about the state of oral sex in America. Apparently more than 50% (51.39% to be exact) of those surveyed will end the relationship if you don’t munch or blow.
There was some interesting findings
“Do you think oral sex or intercourse is more intimate? The respondents were split down the middle, with oral sex winning by a razor’s edge. 50.4% think that oral sex is more intimate than intercourse. Interestingly, the majority of men think that intercourse is more intimate, whereas the majority of women think that oral sex is more intimate.
Another question the respondents were very split on was: is refusing to engage in oral sex a relationship deal-breaker? 51.39% said yes. Other interesting statistics: 33% have felt at least some societal pressure to engage in oral sex, and 12.1% of people strongly dislike kissing their partner after oral sex.
If oral sex is part of 72% of North American sex diet what happens if it’s not your thing?
There are a number of things you can ask of your partner- shaving, eating fruit and sweet things before sex, drizzling genitals in something yummy like maple syrup or chocolate sauce, douching with apple cider vinegar, stay off the garlic and dairy, and make sure you are scrupulously clean. And try. If you have had a bad experience better liaisons it’s time to try again with some grace, communication and gentleness.
If it’s something you really want to get past then I can help. One or two sessions with lots of encouragement and concrete tips can really help. My skypeffacetime/what’s ap sessions are private, affordable and easy. Book now and let’s get this resolved.

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Are you missing your work spouse? Maybe it's time to look at those relationships.


As I tell clients, who your partner is having coffee with is far more threatening to your relationship than an inconsequential sexual liaison. With the pandemic in full swing the aftermath may be that more and more people work from home. What’s going to be interesting is how many people feel cut off from their intimate (albeit maybe not sexual) work connections.
It turns out that over 20% of people meet at work or at a work function. You put adults together with some commonalities, especially if there is some tension, stress and adrenaline and bonding happens. And you start to have feelings of protectiveness and intimacy towards your work spouse.
“1/4 of Americans admit missing their work spouse, more than they would their partner, reveals survey.
2 in 3 couples say they are not as productive as they could be when working under the same roof.
1 in 10 admit accidentally calling their partner by their work spouse’s name.
Tips on working from home with your partner.
If you work in an office team environment, there may be a colleague or co-worker with whom you share a strong bond – someone you consider your ‘work spouse’. Considering the average American employee spends around 40 hours per week working a typical 9 to 5 job, it’s no wonder we seek support, friendship and loyalty in a space where we (usually) spend a large portion of our daily lives. However, if you are romantically involved with an actual partner, having a work spouse may trigger feelings of jealousy in your real-life relationship.
If you are in lockdown with your partner, it can be difficult to maintain a high level of productivity when it comes to your job. There are plenty of domestic distractions at home including your partner, Netflix, and the temptation to get back into bed for more snooze time. It appears a large number of couples are distracted by each other as 2 in 3 couples here say they are not as productive as they could be when working under the same roof.
View the following tips on how to maximize your efficiency while working from home with your partner
In fact, 65% of employees working from home say they would be more productive if they were in lockdown with their work spouse as compared to their actual partner. Perhaps this is because it is easier to discuss projects and deadlines with your colleague or co-worker who fully understands your industry, as well as bounce ideas off one another in order to maximize efficiency.
If you’ve seen the episode of ‘Friends’ where Ross accidentally says Rachel’s name at the altar instead of the name of his wife-to-be, you will know that calling your partner by the wrong name can be detrimental to your relationship! This is a relatively common occurrence in American households as 1 in 10 employees admit to accidentally calling their partner by their work spouse’s name.
‘While working from home, it is understandable why a large percentage of US employees are struggling to focus on their work, especially with news of a global pandemic,’ says Jamie Ellis of PRPioneer.com. ‘If you have the space, try working in a separate room to one another and plan your lunch hours at the same time. This way, you will each be able to give more attention to your work tasks, while still enjoying time together as a couple over lunch, dinner and in the evening.’
What I’m seeing during this lock down is the challenges of couples spending weeks together without the option of getting out of the house. But it’s also a chance for re-connection. It gives you the quiet from running in place to look at your life and the quality of your relationships. If you are looking to your work spouse for intimacy it may be time to re-engage with your real spouse. Or if you miss your work spouse and can’t stop thinking about them maybe it’s time to be upfront to that person about what you are feeling.
If you are really struggling about what to do then it may be time to put heads together and talk it out. I’ve been there and really encourage you to focus on self awareness. Even one session ($125 for an hour) can give you clarity. It’s safe, confidential, and private. Half of my clients these days are skyping from their car. Let’s talk about those feelings.

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75 things to try in the bedroom. Make it a bucket list

I was asked recently if I had a list of sex things to try during this time of Covid-19 and self isolation with a partner. With time together, stress to burn off having a list of activities that you can check off as a Hell yes, Fuck no or a solid maybe is a great starting point.
Sexual communication is a very under rated skill. In my opinion, it’s best to have conversations about sex when the pressure is removed. I suggest bringing up the conversation when you are on a walk or over the breakfast table. Bringing up sex while you are about to have it isn’t always the best place to get the response you were hoping for. Send you partner this list. Or do the online list at Mojo Upgrade that will send your partner your answers. If you are struggling to find a way to communicate sexually with your partner you may benefit with a few sessions of online therapy to set up the ground rules. It can be one or two sessions and may make a world of difference.

(Activities are listed in alphabetical order.) Can you write a yes, no or maybe?
1. Anal Sex
2. Anal Play
3. Attend a Sex Party
4. Bath Together
5. Bondage
6. Blindfolded Sex
7. Breast Play
8. Costumes
9. Cyber Sex
10. Delaying Gratification
11. Dirty Sex Talk
12. Domination & Submission
13. Dry Humping
14. Erotic Massage
15. Erotic Food Play
16. Erotica – Watching
17. Erotica – Reading
18. Erotica – Writing
19. Exhibitionism
20. Fantasy Play
21. Fun with Fetishes
22. Going Commando
23. Go Parking
24. Go Skinny Dipping
25. Go to a Strip Club – As a Couple
26. Go to a Sex Club – As a Couple
27. Group Sex/Swinger’s Club
28. Hair Pulling
29. Have Loud Sex/Have Quiet Sex
30. Have Sex Three Times in One Day
31. Have Sex Every Day for One Month
32. Kissing
33. Kitchen Sex
34. Lap Dance – Give
35. Lap Dance – Receive
36. Licking Various Body Parts
37. Lingerie Shopping – As a Couple
38. Make Out Session – No Intercourse for at Least an Hour
39. Masturbation – Solo
40. Masturbation – Mutual
41. Middle-of-the-Night Sex
42. New Sex Locations
43. New Sex Positions
44. Office Sex
45. Oral Sex
46. Orgasm at the Same Time
47. Outdoor Sex
48. Phone Sex
49. Playful Restraint
50. Play Sex Games
51. Pornography – Watching
52. Pornography – Making your Own
53. Pose Naked for the Camera
54. Quickies
55. Role-Play
56. Rough Sex
57. Sensual Biting
58. Sexting
59. Sex Against a Wall
60. Shaving Each Other’s Genitals
61. Shop at a Sex Shop – Alone
62. Shop at a Sex Shop – As A Couple
63. Shower Sex
64. Skip Work to Have Sex
65. Slow, Sensual Sex
66. SM (Erotic Pain Play)
67. Spanking
68. Strip Tease
69. Tantric Sex
70. Thirty Minutes or More of Foreplay
71. Threesome
72. Trigger a Non-Genital Orgasm (It IS possible!)
73. Use Sex Toys – On Self
74. Use Sex Toys – On Partner
75. Voyeurism
As you consider ways to add variety to your sex life, keep in mind that you’ll achieve greater success and confidence through a series of small changes rather than jumping right into radical sex. Take your time, experiment, explore and most of all…enjoy the journey!♥

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The sex bucket list. How to introduce your partner to all the crazy, sexy things you want to try

I’ve got a new book to share to clients and Duckling members.
It’s an ebook called your sex bucket list that I will happily email to you if you reach out to me. It’s been interesting interviewing clients and group members about the kind of things they want to try sexually and this and other information can offer up some great sex ideas that may not have occurred to you.
Talking about a wish list is more than fantasy. I may have a fantasy about a sex scene with people dressed up like the cast of Scooby Doo but it’s not something I’m going to try. On the other hand I do want to play with a variety of floggers with my partner to see which one he responds to best. That’s a bucket list item. And trying to walk the line in my head between fantasy and wish list has been a fun exercise while I’m stuck inside during the pandemic. Talking also been a great way to see the differences between how men and women think about sex. For me a checklist of crazy ideas from gentle touch to fantasies that involve yodeling and cream cheese (and everything in between and far after) has me a good reminder of the breadth of human sexual imagination.
There are a couple of lists online (Cosmo truth be told seems a little ho hum) but they give you a starting place. And if you are kinkier than usual try going through some of the product suggestions on the extreme restraints site.
So if sex is your hobby (and it’s certainly mine) then I encourage you to start a running list of things you want to try in bed. It helps build your sex IQ. And if you want to talk about making it happen in the form of a 30 or 60 minute session with me inexpensively then I encourage you to book a skype/facetime/messenger appointment.
Here’s a starting list. Check off all that might apply and then show your partner….
1. Kiss a girl
2. Have anal
3. Have a threesome
4. Engage in group sex
5. Have phone sex
6. Masturbate
7. Use a vibrator
8. Use a sex toy on someone else
9. Be tied up
10. Tie someone up
11. Have sex in a public space
12. Be a voyeur and watch others having sex (live, porn does not count)
13. Sex in a car
14. Sex at a drive-in
15. Mile-high club
16. Sex with a stranger
17. One-night stand
18. Married sex (the best kind, in my opinion)
19. Sex on a boat
20. Sex in a body of water
21. Light spanking
22. Read erotica
23. Play strip poker/Monopoly/card game
24. Sex in the shower
25. Sex standing up against a wall
26. Sex in a tent in the wilderness
27. Sex with no kissing
28. Sex in the pitch black
29. Sex in the broad daylight
30. Making out with no sex long after you’re no longer a virgin
31. Blindfolded
32. Watch porn together
33. Watch porn alone
34. Learn to give yourself multiple orgasms
35. Sex on the beach
36. Using ice sexually
37. Sexual role play
38. Whipped cream
39. La Perla lingerie sex
40. Frederick’s of Hollywood lingerie sex
41. A quickie in a skirt
42. Sex with someone much older
43. Sex with someone younger (legal!)
44. Sex in a foreign country, possibly with a foreigner
45. A longie in the rain
46. Sex in the ocean while people swim all around you
47. Feather ticklers
48. Sex while “altered” whether by alcohol or something else
49. Learn to orgasm in less than five minutes from intercourse alone
50. Silent sex in a full house

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Why having fun makes you sexy

It turns out that having more fun improves your relationships, both in and out of the bedroom.
Research shows that when we have fun with others, these experiences have a positive effect on building trust and developing communication. Having fun gives us an opportunity to connect and be creative. When we laugh together, this sends an external non-verbal message that says: “We are alike, we share values” (Everett, 2011). It can also make us look more vulnerable, but at the same time approachable and friendly, which can help build connections and bonds. That in turns makes us feel more aroused and are more attractive to other partners.
Here is what else it does:
Fun makes us smarter
Fun reduces stress
Finding more fun in physical activity balances your hormone levels
Fun can make you more energetic and youthful
Fun gets you laid.
Join a social group (like the Ducklings) and see the difference it will make in your life.

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School of Sex on non-monogamy followed by a Zumba dance class and then burlesque

SEPT 29 in Ottawa starting at 3:30 41 Rosemount Ave

We are trying something different with our sex skills school. We know there is a need for continuous information. We want to do weekly 45 minute classes rather than a two hour presentation. First week is the art of the erotic touch and massage. THIS WEEK IS EVERYTHING YOU WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT NON_MONOGAMY!

Examples of non-monogamy can be:
~Two couples connecting with each other (quad)
~Heterosexual couple Bringing in an extra male (hot wife)
~Swing clubs where everything from gentle touching on the dance floor to full blown orgies (and everything in between) happens
~Polyamorous. Means to love more than one person. But can be someone who is married and has a girlfriend/boyfriend or more.
~Alternative relationships in all kinds of ways. Asexual while one partner has other sexual interactions, monogamous but in different cities.
~Friend with benefits for an occasional hook up

We have booked the hall for five weeks ( Sept 29, Oct 27, Nov 3rd) for five different School of Sex techniques (everything on best hand jobs, the advanced art of oral sex, talking dirty etc).
We will have a chance to get the best information, research and ideas in a safe way. You can always sit at the back of the room but everyone can get better in bed. Up your sex IQ.

And then we throw in an exercise class followed by a 30 minute mingle. So it’s a sex class, exercise class, and a chance to mingle afterwards!
Everyone needs to increase their hip mobility, pelvic tilts, keegals and other sex muscles. Let’s dress in the skankiest workout clothes, throw on the music and have Carla the certified Zumba instructor lead us through a fun workout targeting our sex muscles. We need to be bendy and put those ankles behind our ears.

And then we have Kopy Kat teaching us burlesque! It’s co-ed and super sexy. All you need is your workout clothes and let’s start walking tall and strutting our stuff.

Bring your workout clothes (there is a place to change)
The cost is $30 for all three School of Sex, Zumba or burlesque! Or $20 for any one class. Be a rock star in the bedroom and strengthen those boffing bits! See you then!
Only some of our members are on meetups. The rest are on our newsletter (make sure you are getting the pictures from us every week and in the private facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/335381237198870/pending/

Rosemount Orange Hall Sept 29 starting at 3:30. $30 for all three classes. 41 Rosemount Ave

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School of Sex. Nipple stimulation, anal sex and chocolate bunt cake! Be informed

It’s time for a School of Sex!
Our survey results mentioned Anal play as a topic of interest, and there are some new toys, and techniques around nipple and breast stimulation that needs addressing. We want to add some bunt cake to the mix (that’s the cake with a hole in it) along with a chance to meet, mingle and make new friends!
We will cover the 14 misconceptions about anal sex, and why 46% of Canadians want some kind of rear end play. The afternoon will also cover prostate massage, pegging, and the latest in butt toys. And if that’s not enough, we will outline a program of breast stimulation that the latest literature suggests actually works to improve size, and firmness of breast tissues. A fun activity to try with a friend (or friends!)
We will have a try-this-at-home play set of nipple clamps, and a game that involves “headlights”.
We think everyone can get better in bed. Even with over 25 years as a Sex Therapist there are always new things to learn. Be great in bed and up your sex IQ.
It’s discreet (you can wear a fake name and sit at the back of the room), funny, incredibly informative and interactive. And a number of our Duckling couples have met at School of Sex mingles. So it’s a great way to make connections. Come out on a Sunday afternoon and learn about bottom and breast play. And eat chocolate cake in funny shapes.
We have some in person and virtual School of Sex’s coming up. Check out the Duckling lineup!