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Do women "dry up" at 50?

50_foot So do women after 50 have no interest in sex, and if they do, do they require vats of lube?

If you ask men sitting around a table over 45, many of them would be teasing and joking about how they never get sex anymore, and that they all have to beg for it.  Apparently, this is just a veiled way of covering up the fact that many of them, aren’t getting it nearly as much as they would like. Consistently, men tell me that women don’t appreciate that they need sex, and think about it at least 6 times a day….(on average according to the Sex in America study)

Women as they hit menopause, seem to be giving up sex for lent or much, much longer. Menopause never improves women’s libido, and given the stress, and chaos of modern living, the cortisol or stress hormone levels in women’s bodies biologically turn down the heat to almost non-exisitant for many women. Hey, if you stress animals enough, the first thing that goes is their ability to go into heat. Think of looming deadlines, the pile of laundry, kids and aging parents, and you have a receipe for no sex.  And the longer you go without it, the less likely you are to kickstart it. You need interest, arousal, lubrication, decent technique, timing and an orgasm to really enjoy sex.  If one of those things are off for women, she’s starting to do her laundry list in her head while her partner is huffing and puffing on top of her.

I’m going to offer up some suggestions for fixing the drought in upcoming blogs.  in the meanwhile, know that many guys are going to explode from lack of sex, and masturbation simply isn’t cutting it. 

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how to have sex until you die

Sex_elderly So my guest tonight was this cool MD, originally from Winnipeg, now living in California who had some great suggestions on staying sexual until our 90’s or they take us away feet first.  His name was Dr. Abraham Kryger His book on hormone’s and a woman’s guide to men’s healthHe said a few very interesting things that I hadn’t heard express in just that way before.
1. He says that men low testosterone have a greater chance of getting prostate cancer.  He’s been using the low dose testosterone creams for years, with great success.  He says that men should have a testosterone check at 50 to give them a baseline of what their normal testosterone should be for them (between 300 and 1200).
2. He said that new information out is that prostate problem may be a vitamin  deficiency, and adding that vitamin to your diet is effective treatment for men with high or elevated PSA (prostate specific androgens).
3. Men are getting chemically castrated by the toxins in the meat and animal fat.
4. The two biggest causes of impotence are a) smoking  b) alcohol.
5. Men’s sprem counts have decreased by 45% over the last decade in the US, the UK, adn France, mainly due to these increased toxins.  While girls puberty has decreases, boys have actually increased.  Scary stuff.
I’ll post the MP3 of the interview for your listening pleasure.
Howdymaam
 
 
 
 

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Can you put your ankles behind your ears?

Stripper Porn is hotter than usual these days.  With the new book by the vivid girls on how to be a XXX movie star, porn seems to be the new mainstream, with references popping up in everything from the grammy’s to Calvin Klein ads.  An industry under flux, porn is going through a transformation from the cheesy Dirk Diggler types portrayed in Boogie Nights, to grudging respectability as only a billion dollars can do. Have you tried one of the sensual dancing classes on how to strip for your partner?  Well I thought I would give it a whirl, and find out what all the buzz was about.  I’ll keep you posted…  I’ve interviewed Mary Taylor author of bedroom gamesmary’s teach you to dance site – she’s an ex stripper with 20 years experience who speaks on keeping it hot, and has written the book on embracing your inner stripper. Spanking

What I try to teach women is to find out where they are on the continuum from prudish to harlot finding a way to spice things up, while being authentic to their own sexuality.  It’s trying to find the line in the sand between the whore in the bedroom, Mom in the livingroom, and Wonderwoman everywhere else. I’m trying to be a spin mama making friends with your dust bunnies, and with keeping it hot being the thing I speak to women’s groups all over the continent about, it’s obviously something more than just me struggles with.

I just want to cast my vote to say that I think there may be nothing sexier than ordinary guys learning to strip. Just for the record, it’s what I want for my 40th birthday. The Full Monty sexy british movie that made me laugh and made me hot , and if I learn to dance anywhere near as well as those guys, I’ll consider my strip classes a huge success.More_male_strippers

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When a young man's fancy turns to ….

Spring I don’t know what its like in your part of the world, but in Ottawa, we still have snow.  However, it’s melting fast and spring is in the air. It’s smell I associate with maple syrup, – a combination of dog poo, and that damp earth smell.  The thing about it is , that humans and apes, are the only species on the planet that doesn’t have a set time to go into heat.  We can conceive for those five days every month (the day the woman ovulates, and the four days before,  approx. 14 days before the start of her next period).  Like all life on this planet, this follows a lunar cycle, and as the days get longer, the birds return, the flowers bloom and out,  hormonal levels rise enough to start thinking about rutting.
Ah, the rut.  If the average guy thinks about sex 6 times an hour, and woman want it bad, depending on the time of the month, how do we reconcile these urges. I’m reading M. Jacoks book about evolutionary biology that says, getting out in the sun during the early spring is an effective way to kickstart libido.  So, get some sun on your face, and start thinking more about the birds and the bees. Bees
All this from your friendly neighbourhood sex therapist.

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Last night's radio show

I had a really fun show last night talking about male sexual problems.  I love my job.  I get to talk about sex, and had a bunch of guys call in responding to my guest James Whittall, founder and President of men essentials, the first men’s cosmetic site.  He espouced on about the benefits of edible testicle talc (sweaty nut powder), and how his article about shaving Private Ryan, but have a listen yourself.  It’s a 14 minute kick ass interview about the benefits of bikini waxing and going hairless for men.  If only all my guests were as cool and funny as James.  Download james_whittall.mp3 see pic of James below

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I also had this question from a listener in response to last night’s show:

Just heard your radio show for the first time, while doing some late
night driving. It would be great if everyone could talk about sex as
openly as you do. I have a question about semen. My semen is often refered
to as \"very thick\", \"chunky\", \"lumpy\" etc. Is thick semen (lumpy)
considered normal? I consider it normal for me, because it has always
been like that. But with the comments, I am starting to think maybe it
isn\’t so normal.  L.

Hey L, lots of men have different consistencies to their semen.  Provided it doesn’t have an odor, or change color, I wouldn’t be concerned. Semen can be influenced by such things as food, fluid, amount of times you ejaculate weekly (I think it should be 4 times a week or more, to clean out the prostate and make the semen more fluid.) Temperature can also influence it. Any woman knows that her body temperature causes the drip-down-the-inside-of-the-thighs phenomenon, within 15 minutes after unprotected ejaculation is deposited in the vagina.  So don’t sweat it.

More cool stuff tomnorrow.

Still feeling the love,

Sue

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Sex toys, the start of the list

Okay, I’ve seen em all,  The good the bad and the ugly of sex toys. I want to start giving you the top 20 toys, the exceptional romance products, batteries sometimes included.

With two trips to the far east to see the huge manufacturing plants in off shore China, and Hong Kong, a visit to the California Doc Johnson football field-like warehouses and having attended to Vegas new product and AVN shows, as well as speaking and interviewing the most diverse group of owners, inventors, purveyors, and users of these toys I’ve amassed the definitive list of great –must have products. These are the toys for every person who wants a good toy, but who’s idea of sex doesn’t include a 9 volt battery, a chicken feather, a Little Bo Peep costume in men’s XL and a vat of gelatin. I’ve been called – the “sometimes silly, soccer Mom of sex”, and one hell of a therapist.” Take it for what it’s worth, but at the risk of sounding immodest, I know a lot about adult toys.

My site (sex withsue.com) also gives you a list of inexpensive, toys you can put together from the grocery store and your local hardware store to have THE toy box of tricks. There is a lot of junk out there. Products made with the cheapest of toxic plastic (read the article about poisons in many of these toys) and sold for a huge mark up without explaining the benefits, the risks, the cleaners, and why these are good for you (your partner and will leave you squirming with delight).

I only sell these Sue recommended products. I guarantee all of them, will send you a free e-mail download code to get the audio “ listen to” MP3 stories and  fun suggestions that will leave you knowing all the tricks, and can be used as a fun bedtime story with your partner….

I’ve got audio interviews with Dell Williams of EG, Darryl Brown of Calston , and Serenity of AVN in my listen to Sue section, and have all of their recommendations.  I’ve interviewed my staff, patients, listeners, and friends give their recommendations of the best products on the market. Finally, some celebrity comments round out the things you need to know about sexual products and why a list that follows over the next few days, is all that you need to satisfy any non-deviant desires.

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Green protruding things

Happy St. Paddy’s Day         More sexy conversations…
Well as I figure out blogging (as I silmultaneously work on the podcasting), I’m trying to post interesting and useful stuff a la the Scobel and Isreal book Naked Conversations. (my podcast had the sexy conversations title before I found the book guys) I’ve never been cool but I’m trying, and after some green beer this afternoon, I thought I should post on the good, the bad and the ugly of green things during sex.
I had a few thoughts about green protruding things. Whether it be cheap satin underwear that turned my vulva from my favourite shade of GM sportscar pink (I can’t wait to be old, swear alot and drive a vulva-pink sportscar, but I digress) to an awful shade of green, I realized that green isn’t a color you want associated with your protruding parts.
I often talk on air about how relatively safe oral sex is.  Hey, even in Health Canada’s latest (Jan. 2006) publication on the state of the AIDS infections in Canada couldn’t state that AIDS is transmitted orally.  Unless you’ve just had teeth pulled, and have gaping, oozing sores in your mouth (and then the thought of fellatio at that time seems incredibly unpalatable), oral sex is, all things considered, a safer sexual activity.  That is, unless you have Green, foamy stuff coming out of your genitalia. That’s usually the clap or the gon…, which burns when you pee and smells something fierce. I remember the first time someone came into the birth control clinic with a raging infection (kind of like when someone forgets a tampon inside) it is the most putrid smell imaginable…Now I’m being gross, but it’s my important safety tip of the day. Don’t go down on anyone with green stuff because you can get the STI (sexually transmitted infection) in your throat. oowwww.
I can’t think of anything else that’s sexy green unless you caount my sparkly, open-toed shoes I got to match a hideous bridesmaid dress once. My foot fetish patient got all turned on in my clinic when I tried to have his appointment wearing them… Live and learn.
So I guess kermit was right.  It’s not easy being green.  At least not in the bedroom.
A demain.  Sue

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Cheeky tomato blog

Hey,
Welcome to my blog!  Being 14 years in radio, I’m all about the audio, and I’m trying to podcast, but wanted to get started with some literate, great information about smut.  God, I love technology.  Can you be a geek that talks about sex?  I’m a sex therapist, with some crazy ideas about solving sexual problems.  My particular expertise is that I can solve sex problems, quickly, with humor, and in the nicest possible way. Check out my site www.sexwithsue.com, and I figure out how to change, update and create a new content and talk to people about things I found so fascinating.  Sex, it’s so interesting.   I want to talk to people about the kind of ses they are hearing, and answer questions that I’m getting on my website.
It’s a start, and I’m blogging….