I can’t remember the last time I actually watched a beauty pageant. But I admit to a certain girly fascination with the cinderella type experiences. Like the Amy Farrah Fowler character on The Big Bang Theory, the bridesmaid in me loves the pink dresses and hoopla associated with pageants. It’s soooo politically incorrect and yes it objectifies women. It also makes one feel completely inadequate about your body. So why does it have a “train wreck” kind of fascination to me and other women my age? Reading about beauty queens is kind of a guilty pleasure like eating truffles alone or diving into a Harlequin Romance novel.
So over the weekend Olivia Culpo was crowned Miss USA. Culpo, a Boston University sophomore, will take a year off from her studies to tackle her duties as Miss USA and represent the nation in the 61st Miss Universe contest in December. The 20-year-old Culpo voiced her support for transgender beauty queens during the make-or-break interview round.
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She claimed she wants to see transexuals in the mix. So do I. Not only do I think it is a human rights issue (like allowing women to be members of Augusta golf courses), but it will encourage one of my favourite games. Blaik and I play it in the hot tub and around the pool during holidays when trying to determine if someone’s breasts have been augmented. Are they real or not? In this case, it will be “real girl, or great plastic surgeon?” I’ll look forward to next year’s pageant winner. Maybe I’ll even watch.
I had lunch with a woman I knew from University this week. She was one of those women who wasn’t classically beautiful, heavy around the hips, ordinary job but had men follow her every move. I remember wondering what she had that “got the guy”. It seems not much has changed. She has a handsome husband that adores her, but the waiters still hovered.
I remember that #1 best selling book rom the 70’s written by “J” on How to be a sensual woman…
She spoke of seducing Kings an politicians, businessmen to playboys. She spoke of her secret of being inatey sensuous. But how do you learn that?
I’ve seen it in a number of women throughout the years.
The secret?
Four qualities men across the board are looking for. 1. Casual eye contact with great body language. 2. sexiness in spades. 3. Sell how fun they are. 4. Have a duality of vulnerability and toughness.
Relaxed, sensuous, casual and fun. It is an appealing combination that no guy can resist.
One man’s “sexy” may be another man’s fat…
One man’s “sexy” may be another man’s scrawny…
But sexy means that you carry yourself well, dress to be classy but sultry, make eye contact and are generally comfortable in your skin. Happy, doesn’t try too hard, has some depth (ie. kind but no pushover, smart but asks for help, independent but please opn the door). Stop worrying about everything else and feel not think.
A little complicated?
Fun means happy, playful, flexible, independent, spontaneous, upbeat, smile and eye gaze.
Confident, don’t try too hard. But how do you learn this? I have a plan that I am working on with the sexwithSue team and my radio show. Men fall in love with how you make them feel, no with you.
Happy playful sexy. Let’s change the tape in your head.
Stay tuned for the 10 steps to landing the guy you want.
Marilyn would have been 85 years old today, June 1st. She shares a birthday with my 3 year old niece, and I was reading about in the “if today is your birthday thing in the newspaper.”She’s in the news again this week because of an envelope of negatives some guy in New Jersey bought at a garage sale. It was Marilyn, posing at the beach in a bikini and they may be worth millions. The last thing I bought at a garage sale were french onion so bowl for $2. I doubt they will leave a legacy for my kids.
Anyway, I was trying to understand the appeal that has only added to the mystique of one of Hollywood’s great sirens. Robert Greens’s book about Seduction talks about the duality of persona’s. He says that when your brand says two things about you, it creates new thinking.
In Marilyn’s case she had both the sex appeal and the little girl innocence about her. It was that combination of ed her or take care of her that made men crazy. Betty White in her heyday did that combination as well. I’ m trying to think of current example. Try Lady Gaga. Outrageous, reinventing herself, and sexy.
Monroe is a cult figure and almost a characature of siren. It was a role that didn’t allow her to be authentic. It may have been what cost her her life. But in a recent poll, it turns out ht she wasn’t our favourite screen sex symbol. That honour goes to someone who could always stay in character. Jessica Rabbit from the “Who framed Roger Rabbit” movie.
“It’s really interesting to see that an animated film star topped the list ahead of real-life Hollywood stars like Marilyn herself.” Below is the list o the top 10 Hollywood sex sirens. As for Marilyn, the little girl like quality, the class, and the absolute femininity made her unique among generations of starlets. Happy birthday Marilyn.
Top 10:
1. Jessica Rabbit
2. Audrey Hepburn
3. Marilyn Monroe
4. Raquel Welch
5. Ursula Andress
6. Elizabeth Taylor
7. Grace Kelly
8. Rita Hayworth
9. Ingrid Bergman
10. Vivien Leigh
G-Spot orgasm
The G-spot is defined as a cluster of nerve endings deep in the vaginal wall, the G-spot when stimulated, can produce an incredibly intense type of orgasm.
The world of sex research has been a buzz about this new discovery, since the G-spot was first described by Beverley Whipple at the annual convention of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality in 1980. Many women claim that reaching a G-spot orgasm has been the high point of their sexual lives.
Women who have not experienced the type of vaginal orgasmic response a G-spot orgasm produces often feel frustrated and left out, that they are somehow missing out on a secret so special that they must be doing something wrong. I have had many women speak to me of the intense Richter scale orgasms associated with G-spot stimulation. Other women who have never heard of the G-spot and the intense orgasms it produces feel ashamed or scared when they start “gushing” and get really aroused from vaginal stimulation.
I first became interested in discussing the G-spot and disseminating information about it when I spoke to a woman who had experienced these intense orgasms and who thought something was seriously wrong with her. She had been to her doctor discussing the volumes of fluid gushing out of her, living in fear of a life threatening illness or physical deformity associated with these sensations and fluid expulsion. The later part of Quivering Jello: How to Have Mind-Blowing, Toe Curling Orgams has stories from real-life people who have had these kinds of orgasms and suggestions for how you can reach one too.
Unfortunately, many physicians are unaware of the recent developments in G-spot research and are unable to alleviate the fears and concerns of their patients who experience this kind of sexual stimulation. In fact, some well-intentioned but seriously uninformed doctors have even encouraged women to have surgery to correct this “problem”. Producing fluid and having a mind-blowing orgasm from your vagina is not weird, or abnormal. It’s healthy, sexy and something every woman should have the right to experience without shame.
These women thought that they were urinating, that they were incontinent. Other women have been told by their doctors to just stop having orgasms and that would stop the fluid from coming out! Obviously, these doctors weren’t doing their own hands on sexual research to find out how amazing a G-Spot orgasm can be.
As a sex therapist, and (for more than ten years) the host of a call-in radio talk show about sexuality, I hear all kinds of questions and problems from women and their partners about how to reach the elusive G Spot orgasm. The material collected for this book has been the result of conversations with thousands of people as a therapist and a radio host, who tried new and unique things in the bedroom. There is a collection of letters further on in this book that offer real-life suggestions and strategies couples have tried in enhancing their lovemaking.
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This nerve center deep in the front wall of the vagina is about an inch and a half in, underneath the bladder. Don’t despair initially if you poke around and do not feel anything. One listener described the amount of pressure needed, as having to press hard enough to “pick his wife up with his fingers.” Very long fingers would then be needed to determine the position of the G-spot when lying on the back.
Many women I’ve spoken to find it easier to reach the G-spot if they “bare down” or push out with their genital muscles. Initially, the G-spot feels like a tender spot, and when the g-spot is continually stimulated then it feels like “you need to pee badly” (Carrie 27, listener) The G-spot is located just underneath the bladder, and this is a normal feeling that goes away in a moment if stimulation continues.
The key is that if you can push through this part, and keep on continuing after short pauses, the waves of orgasm start building in intensity.
Some, but not all women if the stimulation builds (especially if there has been a recent clitoral orgasm), or if the re is clitoral stimulation at the same time. My client Jennifer says it feels best if her partner makes a motion with her finger like a “come here” signal, that with enough pressure can bring her to a G-spot orgasm.
The Exact Spot
Let’s be really clear exactly where the G-spot is. It’s located roughly in the middle of the front wall of the vagina. One way to find the location of the spot is to pretend there is a clock in the vagina. If twelve o’clock is pointing to the navel, it is also indicating the position of the G-spot. The sensitive part of the spot is not exactly easy to find, being embedded deep in the vagina wall. So unlike the clitoris, this deep-seated cluster of nerve endings is not as obvious and as easy to find.
One listener suggested that if you could reach underneath the clitoris, from the inside that is where her G-spot would likely be situated.
If the G-spot is stimulated sufficiently, and the intensity is there, many women can have multiple orgasms one after the other. I had one women listener who wrote me saying she could see “colors exploding behind her closed eyes”, when she was having this kind of stimulation.
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Ten Tips
G-Spot orgasm
If the whole vulva was a clock, then the clitoris would be at 12:00. The G-spot would then between 11:00 and 1:00. Realize that this is deep stimulation near the back of the vagina, and on the actual spot – say half-way up the front wall.
Go into the vagina, feel under the curve of the pubic bone, then right after the bulge of the bone, directly under the “clock” or straight under the clitoris, along the ridge of the bone should be where the G-spot nerve endings start.
While offering clitoral stimulation (a mouth works best) use a hard “come here movement” at the spot. Stop if it gets too intense or if your hand gets tired but resume the stimulation. You can cheat by using a G-Spot vibrator that looks like a “J” to do some of the work inside. Don’t be afraid to use fairly firm pressure.
Try having your partner (if she’s not in a daze of Quivering Jello by now), press down on her lower abdomen. You are trying to get to deep seated nerve endings and pressing down helps.
Some women claim crunching their abdominal muscles – almost like doing a sit-up helps. Others find it easier, on their stomache with genitals in the air and having their partner going in from behind- pressing down works well.
Tickle gently the opening of the urethra. This is the tiny hole she “pees” out of just above her vagina. If she’s going to ejaculate – this is where it comes from.
If you can get a couple of fingers inside her vagina, try that –especially as your knuckles massage back and forth almost like the Queen “waving”.
A fuller bladder helps increase the sensation – so make sure you have lots of towels if she has one of those orgasms where she sees stars and releases lots of vaginal fluid. Intense stimulation on her clitoris (try a small clit vibrator) while working the G-spot spot seems to work well.
If it gets too intense, stop and start the stimulation. Most women need a number 30 second breaks or so on their way to orgasm. If it gets too crazy, stop for a moment before resuming the stimulation. You can handle more and more intensity as it builds towards a crushing orgasm.
Finally, it may take you a few weeks of trying this to finally get it. Stay with it, the work is fun and the payoff enormous. The female body can do amazing things- experiment with different kinds of stimulation, and soon G will be your favorite letter in the alphabet!!
She didn’t think I knew anything about her body, until I had her reaching a gushing G spot orgasm! I needed at snorkel there was so much fluid!
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The Libido Diet is the story of how I researched, experimented cajoled, and used myself (and my patients) as guinea pigs to come up with an approach to sexual dysfunction that actually seems to work. I lived this research first hand, and as I changed my hormones I dropped 175 pounds (eek!), which had me chasing my partner around the house christening all the flat surfaces.
The Libido Diet is my story, and the story of women struggling to get back in the saddle and moaning in ecstasy.
The audience for The Libido Diet is primarily for women over 25, right up to menopause in their late 50’s. However the bulk of the women I’m seeing as patients are between 25 and 40 with loving partners. As I sat telling a girlfriend about my approach in treating female sexual dysfunction while sitting at a Starbucks a few weeks ago I had five women around me put down their mugs, strain to overhear, and all ask for my card. Forget eavesdropping on my more outrageous sexual stories on a radio call in sex therapist, these women all wanted to know “how in God’s name can I give myself back the lustful feeling I used to have?” I’m finding it’s a question women everywhere are asking. The Libido Diet answers those questions and comes up with a clear solution like no other book that has come out. It’s finding that horny girl inside you that you used to be. I bet you miss her. And I know your partner misses her too.
As the Libido Coach (and there is no other brand out there like it), I am uniquely qualified to answer the questions about sexual desire. With an established identity and audience (as an International Sex Expert, Syndicated Talk Show How, and television host of a national magazine style sex show), as well as having completed a personal journey related to body image and sexuality enhancement I have literally spoken to 5,000 people about their sex lives. With a acknowledge expertise in women’s sexuality, and fifteen years as one of the leading sex therapists, The Libido Diet tells the truth about my own intimacy transformation, along with the celebrations of the women I coached along with me. It’s the details of how you can kick start your sex drive, done in both a book and engaging audio session. Just hit play on your ipod or cd player, and know you are on your way to having the kind of hot sex you need, want and deserve.
I have all the latest information on bio-identical hormones, (and we are all crazy when we are hormonal), and the latest medical and health information about balancing those out-of-whack hormones. I’ve made it my life’s work to help women “get back that loving feeling”, and I do a Start Me Up program that I GUARANTEE. Hang in there, call me, email me, download this and help is on the way.
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I learned to put my own biochemistry to work. I showed my patients how to maximize their libido with supplements. I gently discovered how to understand my own sexuality, and teach that to my women libido patients.
HOW MODERN WOMEN CAN KEEP THEIR SANITY EVEN IF THEY CAN’T GET A HANDLE ON THEIR LAUNDRY.
Everything from being the domestic goddess, CEO, and Greenpeace volunteer to the temptress in the bedroom and lego-playing mom in the living room, this talk’s for any women who struggles to be all she
can be. It’s for all women who’s relationships are more e-mail moments than Hallmark moments, who still have chocolate emergencies, and consider a good day, when no one sticks to the floor in the kitchen.
I keep hearing from women that they want to be sexy for their partners but are dealing with a 40 plus hour workday, kids, aging parents, trying not to stick to the floor or squeeze themselves like a sausage into lingerie to keep their lovers satisfied. If that doesn’t sound exhausting and like the opposite of sexy then nothing will.
I spend my days talking about women and low libido. Superwomen syndrome is part of the problem. Let’s talk about how we can increase your body’s libido and how we can keep you sane while trying to do all the things you accomplish in a day.
“STRETCHMARKS” IS THE HILARIOUS, AND CANDID LOOK AT THE ETERNAL STRUGGLE OF THE WORK/FAMILY BALANCE AND THE PRESSURE THAT MODERN WOMEN FEEL TO DO IT ALL.
Trying to migrate myself over to the new forum so we can actually have a conversation which is why I'm posting infrequently here.
In the meantime, I am fetching this little circle bandage on my left arm where I got my shot for the HPV virus. That is the needle they give young women around here in Grade 8 to prevent the 6 out of 100 strains of the virus that cause genital warts and cervical cancer. There has even been some unsubstantated claims that the immunization may help prevent breast cancers. I don't have that substantiated, but I was scared to death by the lecture last week about how many women were getting aggressive cervical cancers. And getting the shot prevents this cacer. How cool is that? The only cancer you can prevent. Cervical cancer is 100% caused by the HPV virus.
The reason I hadn't had it up to now was that it was beleived to be a young woman's disease. The idea that your cervical cells change and make it less likely for you to get it as you get older. There maybe some truth to the fact that you are less likely to have the take up of the virus as you age. But the new study that looked at women up to age 49 said we can still get it if we are exposed to the virus at any age. There are women currently dyin at the Ottawa Hospital at 22 and 24 among other ages, so they were likely exposed between 4 to 8 years earlier.
Hence the reason we give the inoculation to 13 year old girls. The inoculation is a medical breakthrouh, and all of us (unless we are nuns and never plan on having sex)shoul have he shot. The downside is the expense. It is covered under most health insurance, but I paid $170 for the injection. I have to get two more over the next 5 months to be completely covered at an additional $170 each time. That hurt worse than the needle.
So more Miss Universe and now some hot model (albeit an Amish one ) has been caught posing suggestively? Big yawn, of course they have. Just in case someone hasn't mentioned it before, sex sells. And it is fun to pose in a way that makes you look sexy and attractive. And everyone is inclined to get in on it. Even Miey Cirus's squeaky clean girl image will try and show some skin. Have you seen the new Hannah Montana video? If you're beautiful, famous or both someone is going to want to take your pictire. What is it about skin that has everyone all atwitter? (see the Twitter comments)
Like the quote attributed to the hottest pin up girl of all time (50's movie star Bettie Page) "To be naked is to be oneself. To be nude is to be seen naked by others and yet not recognized for oneself". It turns out that because we can wear clothes, we can motify our looks like nothing else in the animal kingdom. I think we need to get a grip on our reactions to nude pictures. I think nudity allows us to stop hiding and really get comfortable in our own skin. For couples struggling to be intimate, I get them to spend some time being naked. Especially outside. It is one of the simplest and most effective suggestions I can make as a sex therapist.
So there are some very attractive women who have taken off thier clothes…. And other people like to look at them. That and Tiger Wood's sexual compulsions make the top stories of the day? Just because they entre a beauty pagent, or come from a very traditional culture doesn't mean that they aren't sexual beings. We are all sexual, and some of us look better naked. Why do we assume becuase someone has notary, do they have a responbsiblity to have mosre subdued behaviour and not pose naked? So says beauty pagent officials.
Where am I going with this? Don't know, but just shake my head wondering what all the fuss is about. Besides, I thought you would want to see the pictures to see what all the fuss was about.
Wondering about butt implants. Have you been following this? Apparently Sophie Turner, an Autralian model/lawyer wants the title of the world's best booty. She claims that Kim Kardashian (this year's Paris Hilton – famous for being famous) has butt implants. Who knew you could do that? Can I get one? (kidding…) Check her out to see if she's fake… http://news.gather.com/viewArticle.action?articleId=281474978219794
I was asked to comment for a magazine article about "the five things men should never tell the truth about". I'm confident there isn't a "one size fits all rule about it", but there may be some subjects we are far more sensitive about. Nothing like commenting on male penis size, but be careful in answering the question "Am I a better lover than your ex wife?"
This email resulted in an interesting discussion with my partner Blaik. He thinks men lie about sex (infidelity, masturbation, porn, strip clubs etc). On this we agree. I think women DO NOT want to know about their partner's indiscretions. If you have had a one night stand while drinking too much at a conference for example, that is the last thing your partner should be told. The price you pay for doing something like that is that you have to live with it. If you are feeling guilty, too bad. Don't unburden yourself at your partner's expense.
I think men should lie about porn. A majority of men find it necessary for masturbation. I think sex and masturbation is like food and water. Everyone needs both. What they need to stimulate themselves during what is considered a medically necessary release is personal and private. Men are also biologically attracted to "newness". As a sex therapist, I don't believe that occasional porn causes any harm, nor impacts the relationship between couples. It really isn't a partner's business unless it crosses the line and interferes with everyday life.
I think men lie about things that women are irrational about. Ex wives and girlfriends, too fat, difficult during PMS, your driving skills, what their friends think of them etc. The old adage that "if you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing" is one wise men seem to follow with their partners. And they feel free to lie. If they do have to tell the truth, it causes a fight, and most men don't want the grief.
I mentioned earlier that the universal truths about women are:
1.That we all have body image issues (tred gently and lie if you must when talking about a sensitive body part).
2. Is that we all blame ourselves for everything (all the unrest in the universe. In this you should lie if we will freak and feel guilty and beat ourselves up about something outside our control).
3. And we are all crazy when we are hormonal. A gentle mis-truth about little things when we are likely to fly off the handle at anything and everything that one day a month may be a kindness.
Lindor chocolate, my downfall…