It’s amazing to women how obsessed men can be about their genitals. Women have our share of body image issues but rarely is the obsession focused on our girl bits. As a Sex Therapist I have men in my office every day worried about being hard enough, big enough, lasting long enough, and being skilled enough. The worry about genital normalcy can be all consuming for some guys despite all the things they have going for them. For most men there is lots of pressure to perform. You must get hard, stay hard, initiate, have some game, understand a partner’s needs, don’t come too quickly and understand sexual etiquette. And despite playing with their penis for decades most men aren’t aware of things their penis can do.
I wanted to share some things that you may not know that your penis is capable of in a series of “genitally focused blogs”. I love my job.
1. You can “break your penis”. While the penis has no bone, it does have tissues that can be damaged by rigorous sex. Be carefully about “slamming it home” when it isn’t fully hard. Peyronies is a medical condition where the penis has been injured and scar tissue on one side or another pulls the erection in such a way that you get a bend to one side or another can also happen with a penile injury. Wear your jock strap playing sports.
2. You can change the taste of your sperm. Partners who give oral sex on men are aware of this but fruit an hour before sexual activity can help make a partner much more orally inclined. Dig up the strawberries.
3. Everyone worries about being inadequate. Sexual anxiety is the most common thing I see with men. It can manifest as trouble with erections, but the most common issue is ejaculation challenges. Either too fast or premature or difficulty or delayed ejaculation. Ejaculation is something you can do mindfully (like breathing), but when you are anxious ejaculation can be triggered by the automatic reflex system and be over before it’s started. Breathing, keegals, and gelking can all help last longer. Gelking is the technique where you masturbate and don’t let yourself climax. By staying on the edge you can learn where the point of no return actually is. Read more about it here.

4. Viagra and Cialis are not just for old men. If I was a guy over 30….and if the stress level is through the roof I would be taking boner pills. 1/10th of a pill is often enough to prevent the loss of an erection so cut them in quarters and diminish any possible headaches or other side effects. A new partner, new situation, overall stress or lack of privacy all influences erectile abilities. And it’s normal.
5. Masturbation is like food and water. Everyone needs both. I firmly believe this and have long espoused that “if you can’t play with your own equipment, you shouldn’t play with someone else’s.” Get better at playing with your penis by masturbating in a variety of ways and by learning to delay ejaculation.
6. Your penis has no brain. It is a creature of habit. Interrupting the process of automatic responses by using warm oils, cooling gels, different textures and experiences cause a delay or increased intensity in ejaculation.
7. It’s okay to say no to sex if you are tired, or it’s moving too fast. Talk to your doctor about adding testosterone if you have lost the loving feeling. 20% of men over 35 have lost (or are rapidly losing) their sexual desire. Low libido is the most common thing I treat in my practice. And 20% of the clients I see are men. I see men every week struggling to find the interest to engage with their partners sexually.
8. Smoking shrinks your penis by 1cm, and chronic weed smoking can impact your erections. Everything in moderation. Especially things under grow lamps.
9. Your penis also is made up of muscle. I have seen many clients who have gone on extreme diets and have had penile muscle atrophy. Losing weight is great for your sex life. Crazy diets cause ED and should be one of the disclaimers they make you sign when you start living on 500 calories a day.
10. 94% of men have measured their dicks. They typically range from 4-6 inches erect and only under 2 inches can you call yours a micro penis. Or as one of my clients calls his genital “a bee with testicles”. There are things I can help with for penis size. Have a look at my download here.

Sunday, February 19, 2017
2:00 PM to 4:30 PM
The Rosemount Orange Hall
41 Rosemount Ave, Hintonburg, Ottawa, ON

Although she comes first (we did the girl bits School of Sex last month in January 2017), he gets to come next. It’s time for the penis presentation. The next in the School of Sex series is all about the most protruding of male parts.
For men, find out what’s new for your junk. If you are a guy feel free to sit anonymously at the back of the room and stay current about your equipment. This is your chance to find out about how to last longer, stay harder, what actually increases it’s size (and what doesn’t), what toys, tips, and tools help and which ones just take your money. We will have educated male speakers talking about getting the most from your dick. And for those of us who want to touch (play, enjoy, caress etc) penises, learn the skills that will have his eyes roll back in his head. There will be frenulum and testicle touching suggestions, external tricks like “the double-handed backhand”, and the escalator among others that will seriously up your game.
Like all School of Sex events, this is an open event so everyone is welcome. Bring a friend and find out all about the Ducklings and our School of Sex series. We want to up the skill set in the Nation’s Capital so we become the sexiest capital – not the stuffiest. This is not your parents (or your kids) sex ed class. Discounts for the next six School of Sexes and therapy receipts are also available. Find out more and sign up!
You can pay at the door but there are maximums that the room holds so purchasing in advance is strongly encouraged.

$30 per person. Pay in advance to hold your spot.

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Okay, so you’re quick. A little fast off the mark. A one-minute guy, finish-before-you-want-to, are too fast out of the gate, or otherwise have a condition known as premature ejaculation.
You are in excellent company. Statistics say 25% of men, or one in four guys can’t sexually last as long as they would like to. That’s over a billion men worldwide. Every fourth guy is like you and only pretend to be the lover they claim they are, yet only a few of them seek help. All those guys bragging about their size in the locker room probably didn’t know how to use it. The guys that claim to last all night often have the opposite problem, are experiencing Retarded Ejaculation, or have difficulties finally climaxing. And you can’t compare yourself with porn starts, those guys are professionals- it’s their big party trick, those guys are mutants. Have you ever seen Ron Jeremy. The guy’s not the most attractive guy in any room but learned to use what God gave him. You can too.
Relax, soon women will call you studly. They will throw themselves at your feet. They will pass out your number to their girlfriends and write your name with exclaimation marks on bathroom walls. Or your one and only partner will go around with a permanent smile on her face. Poetry will be written about you. You will be able to control your ejaculation. You will skip when you walk to work.
My download and the new product Order Promescent is going to explain how it is really how you use the package that’s important (not the size, and not your six pack abs, or your great charms), but your focus and concentration that will turn you into the lover you have always wanted to be. And turn your sweetie into a greasy puddle on the floor. She’ll thank you, and thank you and thank you.
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Premature ejaculation, also known as rapid ejaculation, or by the Latin term ejaculatio praecox, is the most common sexual problem in men, characterized by a lack of voluntary control over ejaculation. It means that you can’t stop from climaxing shortly after penetration.
Other sex therapists and books say premature ejaculation is defined “as the occurrence of ejaculation prior to the wishes of both sexual partners.”
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“This broad definition thus avoids specifying a precise duration for sexual relations and reaching a climax, which is variable and depends on many factors specific to the individuals engaging in intimate relations. An occasional instance of premature ejaculation might not be cause for concern, but, if the problem occurs with more than 50% of attempted sexual relations, a dysfunctional pattern usually exists for which treatment may be appropriate.”
That’s therapist speak for coming too fast, and before you and your partner want to, in more than 50% of the time.
To clarify, a male may reach climax after 8 minutes of sexual intercourse, but this is not premature ejaculation if his partner regularly climaxes in 5 minutes and both are satisfied with the timing.
Catch that – the kicker is that premature ejaculation is defined in relation to your partner. I can reach orgasm quickly (there are perks to a lifetime of studying sex), and if my partner gets in a rhythm – even if he’s fast- I can usually get there. It’s about the information – you learned to walk, to talk, to skate backwards (hey, I still can’t do that), but when you practise sexual skills, wonder of wonder, you get better.
The average guy lasts no more than 7 minutes from penetration to ejaculation.
I’m not kidding, seven whole minutes of acual boffing, sinking-it-to-the-nuts, driving it home, intercourse. WhoHoo! Break out the champagne, celebrate heartily 7 whole minutes. For women seven minutes, and I’m just getting warmed up. If you’ve been left hanging everytime you had sex how excited would you be to repeat the experience time and time again? Not only that, but you’ve got to clean up, have another bath, deal with leaking down the inside of your leg, and smelling skunky for the rest of the day for a few minutes of sweaty banging that leaves you frustrated!!!!! That’s the experience of the average quicky seven minute boff for most women. If sh’e in the throes of orgasm that quickly she’s either one of the 25% that can climax easily through intercourse, or she’s faking it to save your feelings.
If premature ejaculation is not lasting long enough to satisfy your partner, would you considered premature if you take 20 minutes to climax, but your partner needs 45? I would define premature ejacualtion as not having control over your own body and its responses. I think that premature men are primarily frustrated because they don’t have any control over their bodies. You can wiggle your toes, slow down your breathing, do abdominal crunches until girls call you AB boy, but if you have no say when you are going to blow and reach the big O, then you can end up feeling like the 98 pound weakling.
If the average amount of time is 7 minutes (from sliding in, to the apres sex cigarette), then how many guys last less thn one or two minutes? Based on the thousands of guys I see in my practise and have spoken to on my show, I think more than 50% of men climax in seven minutes or faster.
The truth is that in up until about the 18th century, being premature was an advantage. You could get in there, deposit your sperm and impregnate some Sultan’s daughter and be out of there before they came looking for your head. Being premature meant you were more likely to be called Daddy. And if knocking someone up is like winning the genetic lottery, than the premature guys had the leg up so to speak. That survival technique was passed down to you, and there is a significant argument that premature men have a genetic predisposition. Which means your dad, your grandpa, and your great-great-great grandfather were also one minute men.
However, given that we are in the 21st century, and not in some cave somewhere, and modern birth control means that sex is mainly for pleasure rather than for procreation, something has to be done to get you lasting longer. Women are way, way, way more sexually hip than they have ever been in history, and if you can’t cut it, you’ll be left with your pants down around your ankles wondering what the hell happened as she replaces you with her vibrator. Scary thought huh?
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I’m here to help. Hell, if they can send a man to the moon, I, Susie sex therapist, can figure out how to get men to last longer. It’s my mission in life (besides doing my share to keep up the national sexual average, sampling my share of chocolate and fastasizing about The Rock….)
Give the product a try and I’ll send you free my download on Premature Ejaculation which is in essence Sex Therapy in a quick download. My patients pay over $1000 to see me privately for this information. The download alone costs $50. So instead you get a guaranteed product, AND the free download all for the cost of the product.
Give it a try. I want you to succeed and I want it to be affordable for you to last longer. I consider it a public service.
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I’ve been sampling a new Premature Ejaculation treatment to some of my patients. Although I haven’t had what I would consider a full scientific sample yet, the early news seems promising. I’m cautiously optimistic as at least 25% of men suffer from being “a little quick off the mark”.
The new treatment is called Promescent. It’s a a Lidocaine-based topical spray, that has been created by a urologist, Promescent is a topically applied spray that not only helps relationships impacted by “early release,” but also those looking to prolong an intimate encounter. PE affects more men than erectile dysfunction, making Promescent a new treatment that is en route to becoming a household name.
Here is some of the propaganda about this new miracle cream. As I said, the jury is still out but it looks promising.
Promescent is designed to absorb below the surface of the skin where nerve endings are located, ultimately prolonging intercourse and bridging the arousal gap to bring couples closer together.
The patented Promescent, is absorbed below the skin, sexual pleasure is not sacrificed – there has never been a report of any side-effects, and unlike other numbing creams, numbness does not transfer to partners.
Promescent is available over-the-counter, at www.promescent.com, through select doctors’ offices, and in pharmacies across the country. (No prescriptions needed) Right now, the only treatment for PE is a prescription for anti-depressants, regardless if they are depressed or not.
I have samples in my office. I speak to 10 men every week about their ejaculation control. And we make great progress in one or two sessions. At $75 for 30 minutes it’s effective and can be quickly resolved. Let’s talk about it.

Premature Ejaculation (PE or those blasted one minute guys) is a very real phenomenon. It is only second to women with low libido as the most common problem I see as a sex therapist. I have written a number of articles over the years about how to last longer (a quick search on this site or a click to order the download will get you up to date) but there seems to be some new information about how to deal with you quick trigger.
1. The Stud 100 spray continues to be popular. Many men paid the $15 and found it doesn’t work. “The trick”, my friend George the sex toy seller says, “is to not use too much. Forget putting any on the head too. Spray a little on the top of the shaft, and a little on the bottom of the shaft, wait 10 minutes and then you’re in business.”
2. Levitra or Cialis may prevent you from ejaculating at all. So does a little codeine (say one Tylenol 1 before sex). Anti-depressants also can stop ejaculation but it can also negatively affect libido and erections.
3. Pressure from a vibrating cock ring. I keep hearing that the We-Vibe is so stimulating when used during intercourse that it speeds up ejaculation. So don’t use that. But a vibrating cock ring against the pressure point at the base of the penis will help prevent ejaculation. Give it a shot and see if it works for you.
4. Ejaculoid – The new semen enhance that can actually increase volume and length of ejaculation. The increased volume actually helps your partner feel the the semen as it travels and squeeze off the tube and encourage the semen to back up. I can explain it if you are looking for more information. send me an email at suem@rogers.com
5. Jelking or the process of using both hands in opposite directions along the shaft of the penis can help if you have a willing partner and clear instruction. I have a BOB in my office that I used as a demo. It still amazes me how little most people understand about their genitals. You can be trained to last longer. It’s especially easier if you have a regular partner that will participate in a few therapy session where i explain it all. And then the fun begins at home. 🙂 And your insurance company covers such instructions. Give me a call and I’ll make sure that you can walk tall the next time you want to go for a marathon love making session.


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The most common problem I see daily in my sex therapy practice, without a doubt is men struggling to last longer in bed. With an average duration of seven minutes, and many guys lasting only one -two, there are a bunch of women frustrated at how short the whole process is. With most women needed 10-12 minutes of rubbing (with their clit involved) to reach orgasm vaginally – if they can at all well… you do the math.
I keep telling guys that if we can put men on the moon, “then for God’s sakes we should be able to get them to last longer in bed”.
Besides doing some cool research with all the new devices on the market (my patients give me clear feedback on what works), there are some interesting studies that is suugesting that premature ejaculation may be genetic. They found a gene for ejacualtion control when scientists mapped out the genome and you may be able to blame your dad and grandfather and base DNA for being a little quick off the mark. The other thing that’s come up lately in sex research is that the smell of your partner at her fertile or ovulating times of the month may set you off faster. Women ovulate about 14 days before the start of their next period, and are more sexual, have friendlier vaginal mucus and smell more appealing to the primitive, limbic part of your brain. Even if you don’t notice it consciously. All the stripper claim that they get more attention (and bigger tips) during their periods, and when they are ovulating.
“Recent research has also investigated the role of factors involving the female partner. One study of young married couples (Tullberg, 1999) reported that the husband’s IELT seems to be affected by the phases of the wife’s menstrual cycle, the IELT tending to be shortest during the fertile phase. Other studies suggest that young men with older female partners reach the ejaculatory threshold sooner, on average, than those whose partners are their own age or younger”
So the moral of the story- until you get your premature ejacualtion under control (www.solveprematureejaculation.net), feel free to blame your anscestors, or 100 million years of evolution on your tendency to be a fast shooter.

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Pe9 The most common problem I see daily in my sex therapy practice, without a doubt is men struggling to last longer in bed. With an average duration of seven minutes, and many guys lasting only one -two, there are a bunch of women frustrated at how short the whole process is. With most women needed 10-12 minutes of rubbing (with their clit involved) to reach orgasm vaginally – if they can at all well… you do the math.
I keep telling guys that if we can put men on the moon, “then for God’s sakes we should be able to get them to last longer in bed”.
Besides doing some cool research with all the new devices on the market (my patients give me clear feedback on what works), there are some interesting studies that is suggesting that premature ejaculation may be genetic. They found a gene for ejaculation control when scientists mapped out the genome and you may be able to blame your dad and grandfather and base DNA for being a little quick off the mark. The other thing that’s come up lately in sex research is that the smell of your partner at her fertile or ovulating times of the month may set you off faster. Women ovulate about 14 days before the start of their next period, and are more sexual, have friendlier vaginal mucus and smell more appealing to the primitive, limbic part of your brain. Even if you don’t notice it consciously. All the stripper claim that they get more attention (and bigger tips) during their periods, and when they are ovulating.
“Recent research has also investigated the role of factors involving the female partner. One study of young married couples (Tullberg, 1999) reported that the husband’s IELT seems to be affected by the phases of the wife’s menstrual cycle, the IELT tending to be shortest during the fertile phase. Other studies suggest that young men with older female partners reach the ejaculatory threshold sooner, on average, than those whose partners are their own age or younger
So the moral of the story- until you get your premature ejaculation under control (www.solveprematureejaculation.net), feel free to blame your ancestors, or 100 million years of evolution on your tendency to be a fast shooter.

Pe_1 I know it’s frustrating. Believe me, I understand it.  I speak to men all day long, who just can’t hang on. It’s also teeth nashing time to be the partner of someone who is a little quick.  If women need 10-14 minutes of intercourse (with indirect contact on their clitoris), and the average guy ejaculates in 4 to 7 minutes, Hell, you do the math.  No wonder 95% of all women have faked it at some point in their lives. ooh, yess..hmm maybe we should paint the ceiling beige…oh yess oh, oh.

So what’s a man (and his concerned partner) to do? There was hope for a new SSRI anti depressant called dapoxetine. It got shot down in the US, is still under advisement in Canada, and will get the nod from the government in the UK. Side effects including dry mouth, vomiting, and get this, erectile dysfunction.  Like many medications, the cure can be worse than what ails you, but for a short term it may help slightly.  And slightly being the operative word. In the trials, men went from lasting one minute to a whopping three minutes (not even average), and it causes erectile dysfunction. Taking anti depressants are one of the top five reasons for erection loss, so taking them for another sexula problem doesn’t make sense.

So, here is Sue’s try-this-at-home,  premature ejaculation therapy for couples.  Instead of watching TV every night this week, or even while you are watching TV, grab some oil, or hand cream and stoke the penis in question.  Rub it when you have a minimum of a half hour to play with. Stroke it until you (or your guy) says "I’m close", then feel at the base of the penis where the tube that runs from the testicles (at the front where the penis and testicles meet) and squeeze – hard. With some practice, you should be able to feel the hard pressure of the semen behind your hand. By pressing down, you send it back into the testicles, and prolong the experience.  You should get close and pull back, six or seven times at least until he begs you to let him go. You can choose to continue the evil treatment or take pity on him.  Get to the point where you can do this for an hour at a time, and you can start trying it during intercourse. I guarantee that you’ll hit at least four minutes after a month, and don’t have to worry about taking pills. 

Besides, it makes watching TV more fun than ever, kick starts your sex life further, and appeals to the sadist in every woman.  Sounds like a win/win to me.

I promised on tonight’s Love and Romance show to offer a few solutions to Premature Ejaculation.  In my experience, there are 12 concrete solutions for fixing the problem.  I’m going to do the 12 days of PE, my true love said to me, “Don’t be so quick”….Here’s what to do…..(sing along with me in your head or out loud if you want the people at the next cubicle to really get into it)  Check this site out tomorrow and I’ll attach an audio file of me actually singing this.  American Idol wanna be I’m not, but it should be memorable.
1. On the first day of therapy Sue McGarvie said to me, do 100 Keegals.
2. On the second day of therapy the sex therapist said to me  “Try china brush” (a herbal application that delay’s things)
3. On the third day of therapy my sex therapist said to me”feel for your defrens”  (the squeeze technique where you put pressure and squeeze at the base of the penis where it joins the body.)
4.  On the fourth day of therapy my sex therapist said to me “masturbate differently”.
5. “Pull down your testicles…”
Listen for the song and the PDF that outlines the rest of the steps tomorrow.  I’m beat and heading for bed after a long night of prepping for the show.  Glad to also note (especially for my friends from Toronto) that the Sens won the first round of the playoffs.
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