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Fertile I didn't see any fairies this solstice despite my best efforts. At least not the kind that flies about on their own wings…. The summer solstice – or the longest day of the year, is traditionally the time of fertility rites, and the time that magic abound in the world and the "little people" make thier appearance.

More to the point, it is the time that you might be the most fertile (probably in conjunction to the spring foods I just wrote about), but if you are trying to get knocked up, this is a good time of year to spend some time on your back under the new summer sun.

Here's the thinking….

Many sacred sites were designed with the summer solstice in mind. Stonehenge on Wiltshire has an entranceway aligned with the solstice sunrise and is a popular gathering point for modern druids and others on midsummer's day.

The ancient sacred sex societies celebrated the Summer Solstice as the peak of summer, marking the day when the sun reaches its zenith — the longest day of the year. Many honored the day with a sacred sex ritual to celebrate the revolving swing of nature.

Sacred sex, like the seasons, moves in cycles. Each season represents a different value of fullness of the wave of sacred sex ecstasy. Summer represents the fullness of sacred sex ecstasy. It is the peak moment of sacred orgasm. The Society for Sacred Sexuality celebrates this full Sacred Union with its annual event.

Solstice Day, the time when the sun is in transition between its northerly & southerly course in the sky, is an ideal day for sacred sex practice. This time of transition in nature is highly conducive to transitioning out of everyday awareness and into the state of Sacred Sexual Union.

Solstice Day is also a day of perfect balance, when the sun peaks at its zenith in the sky, and seemingly pauses before returning on its lesser rise. This makes Solstice Day ideal for enjoying the balanced state of Sacred Sex Union.

The event will be held each year on the day of the Summer Solstice (typically June 21st). If the solstice falls on June 20 in any given year, the celebration and ritual will continue for two days, through June 21. The exact solstice time will be posted in this Forum Message each year.

(Note the June date is for the Northern hemisphere; Summer Solstice for the Southern hemisphere is on or near December 21. Residents of each hemisphere are invited to participate in the appropriate celebration for their region.) Because seasonal rituals fall on the same day, yet have opposite values (i.e. Summer Solstice in the north is the same day as Winter Solstice in the south), our worldwide sacred sex ritual creates a perfectly balanced global effect.

To maximize participation & convenience, and also to create a truly global event, we invite everyone to join the annual ritual from the privacy of their own home. With membership from countries throughout the world, the Society for Sacred Sexuality has a unique opportunity to deeply infuse love & light in global consciousness.

You can participate in the event alone or with a lover by creating a personal sacred sex ritual according to your own desire, using the lessons in the Sacred Sex Lesson Forum, or your own sacred sex practice. During your ritual, lose yourself in your sacred sex wave and feel the fullness of its ecstasy. To add to the effect, enjoy your ritual in some elevated place — atop an altar, in an attic bedroom, raised on bed pillows, or even on an outside hilltop or mountain. This adds to the sense of 'peak' experience.

Cuddle2 I love those crazy event days that are listed in the international directory of special occasions. Everything from "take your mailman to lunch" to "nude recreation week". Today, June 2nd, is Leave work early (and bang your partner like a pooch in heat) Day. Well, I added the last part, but as your sex therapist (and how many real live – not wannabe sex therapist's do you actually know?), I want more people to make love not war. Take part of your day to give your partner a squeeze and get some. "what the world needs now"…. 

Afternoon sex is always my favourite. I'm always horniest during the day. Men typically have the highest testosterone rates first thing in the morning, but women really like a quick nooner, or afternoon delight. I can even write you a prescription (I have brand new prescription pads) for sex. "For medicinal value, the bearer of this note shall be excused from work, class, mowing the yard or whatever they are supposed to be doing, to leave work early and go home and practice their sexual techniques."  signed, Sue McGarvie, Clinical sex therapist.

There, you have no excuse. Forward this blog to your sweetie, and plan on signing out for sex. Consider it your mandate today.

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So it's Valentine's Day. The day when we take a moment out of our hectic lives to say to our sweetie's "You are special, and even with all the chaos surrounding us, I would pick you again." At least that is what I think Valentine's Day is about. Or as your sex therapist, it is the day in the year when you are suppose to to screw like bunnies.  Yeah!

Despite the commercialization of the holiday, I think women want something simple.
My sweetie, world renowned for his homemade "Hallmarks" gave me a card on 8 1/2 by 11 white paper that read:

    Valentines, a special day. My heart is filled with thoughts that say…(something personal and x rated that can't be published here )  But in return you've won my heart, I love every inch, I love every part. You're my chick, all leather and lace, and even with a prickly face. (a comment on my recent waxing endeavor).

I was so moved. Irreverent, homemade poetry will touch me (and most other women I know).  The article published in the National Post said:

"Jenna Walsh, an account executive in Boston, is looking forward to some special treatment this Valentine's Day, but, she's not interested in flowers, champagne or chocolate.

"If I could have anything this year, it would be nothing more than a heartfelt 'thank you,' since it's one of the many things men have difficulty communicating," she says. "I don't think there's any material gift that could show that kind of appreciation or maturity," she adds.

The grim economy has many couples rethinking their priorities, and plenty of women are seeing the holiday as a chance for their lovers to express their true feelings, not just the contents of their wallet. 

In fact, many women want things a partner could easily provide but might never guess.

Lauren Warthan, in Austin, Texas, fantasizes about breakfast tacos served to her in bed.

Along similar lines, Helen Gregory in Brooklyn, N.Y., wants "a kiss and a cup of coffee when I wake up."

So don't panic if you haven't gone out to the store and got something store bought. Take a page from my Valentine. Depreciating, but loving thoughts are way better than roses.

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Guess what. You don’t need another excuse to play fantasy games of the bosom-heaving damsel and boat of unwashed pirates. Tomorrow, September 19 is International Talk Like A Pirate Day. Don’t believe me? Check out talklikeapirate.com, and practice up on your lingo and get costume ideas. If it’s a Friday dress-down-at-work-day, send out the email that everyone comes in cool boots and an eye patch.  Or you can read about the sex lives of pirates and learn how to  Unleash Your Inner Buccaneer.” But if you’re a modern day piratewith modern day needs, celebrate the pirate holiday by downloading a new application for your iPhone: the ayePhone.
That’s right, the ayePhone, made by Area 45 software, lets you live vicariously as a pirate tomorrow and every day. The application makes pirate sounds, such as “yo ho ho” and “walk the plank,” and allows you to feel like a real, live pirate, but without the puffy shirt and eye patch and plundering and all that. Although I’m wondering what the fun is in that.
Pirates3 Tomorrow is also a good day to rent the x rated movie – Pirates (a boat load of women pirates) with lots, and lots of sex and boys on their knees. It was the porn movie of the year last year, with a huge budget, loads of skin which won all the awards.  It’s always good to do something hot for your sweetie, and all women are secretly hot for pirates. Or maybe it’s just that all women are hot for Johnny Depp.
 
 
 

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No need to be shy about taking off your clothes. In case you haven’t heard today marks the beggining of nude recreation week, and if you ever had any interest in frolicing outside naked and exposing your privates to air, sunshine and the occasional mosquito bite, now is the time to strip. On until the 16th of July think of suggesting a clothing optional activity to your sweetie and taking a chance to increase your vitamin D level by streaking. Having been to a variety of nude beaches all over the world, I am always struck by the same things. The first is how ordinary people are. I think it was my friend Gerry the mailman who said that “if you stopped a busload of people and had everyone strip, that is the typical group of nudists”. Big, small, old, young, tattooed, and wrinkly,  you learn pretty quickly that everyone has the same parts. Secondly, that once people take their clothes off they relax, are less uptight, and more likely to engage in genuine conversation- rather than just smiling and nodding at you as you would with strangers at any other beach or campground.  It’s also liberating to shed some of those body image issues that I believe every woman (and man men) have.  Time to embrace your new skin, and shed some of what you’re hiding behind. Happy Nude Recreation Week, think of the fun and games you can have in your office this week!

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IBobbitt2 don't know if you remember the Bobbitt trial. Lorena Bobbitt, June 23, 2008 Today is the day in 1993 where Lorena Bobbitt took a kitchen knife to her sleeping husband after he was supposed to have raped her and slashed off his penis. She then drove away and threw it in a neighboring field.  They were later able to sew it back on and he had some limited success in using it afterwords. John Bobbitt even stared in a really bad porn movie afterwords as he cashed in on his 15 minutes. It was quite a news story. The word Bobbitt  got added to the english language as a popular culture addition to Websters  meaning violent emasculation. What I remember most about it was sitting in the newsroom before my show on CKQB, the Bear in Ottawa and listening to the news guys laugh about it, and struggle to say the word penis. Now newsrooms all over are notoriously irreverent, but those guys have got game, and are able to keep a straight face reading the most outrageous news story. This story however, had them doubled over. You could hear them snickering like kids and kept blowing their practice news reading over the word penis. I guess most people (with sex therapists being the exception) don't say the word penis very often. Rolling my eyes, I had the guys practice saying 'penis, penis, penis, penis" over and over until they could state it without cracking up. It was a lesson to me in the language of sex, and that even hard boiled news guys could be uncomfortable about terminology. It also taught me that if you have something to say that's uncomfortable trying practicing it over and over again until you get it right.  Finally, it shows me now quickly the sexual paradigm changes and how much more open the media is about using sexual words than they were even 15 years ago. And finally, it gives you a healthy respect for a woman scorned holding a butcher knife. Bobbitt

Sue_characture It’s been a crazy time. I’ve moved, re-invented myself, re-organized my life, and am now looking at the beginning of an incredible year. I was at a New Year’s Eve party last night and asked this crazy Californian if he had any resolutions. He resolved to have less drama in his life, and I thought that was a great idea. For me, it’s no more babysitting other adults (less drama from me and them), being happier than I have ever been in my life, stop apologizing for wanting adventures, eat right, and exercise consistently, live, love, and enjoy each day to the fullest.  I am also going to try to have sex at least 300 times this year.  A lofty, but doable goal, and I’ll keep you posted. As of this morning, the first day of what is going to be an amazing year, I have only 299 more to go. Grin.

Happy New Year.  It’s going to be great.

Midsummers_night Tomorrow is midsummer’s eve. The summer solstice, the longest day of the year, my half birthday truth be told (hint sailor, bring chocolate…). My favourite Shakespearian play – beats Romeo and Julliet “What light from yonder window breaks? It is the East and Julliet is the sun….” or the tragedies “take thee to a nunnery…” It’s about sex, bawdy parties, immoral adult dancing naked under the full moon, and I wish I could recreate it.   Who hasn’t wanted to have sex with a Minator, fairy or hobgoblin named Puck?  I want a party with magical lights, a donkey headed, obnoxious fool, royalty, controlled substances and gossamer wings where everyone has sex at the end.  Who am I kidding, it sounds like my frosh week – as  I went off to University.  Only then, the only royalty was the “head girl”.

I have had a dream, past the wit of man to say what dream it was: man is but an ass, if he go about to expound this dream.
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