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EEK! Stretchmarks and penis sizes

NotgrabbingI get a bunch of e-mails from women who are so worried about what they look like naked. As a fellow woman with hips, I know how concerning it is to get naked in front of someone new for the first time.  Men, look, but most aren’t expecting porn star bodies, and just want enthusiasm in the bedroom.
Guys, it seems, are fretting about the size of their equipment.  Actual, penis size is one of the top three questions I get from men. (premature ejaculation/sexual anxiety, and erections round it out).  And I tell them that average is better!!!! Too big, and you’re banging away at the back of her vagina, causing her ovaries to get jostled, and feeling like you’re getting stabbed, as he thrusts to what feels like the back of your throat.  I have way more patients come to see me with problems of being too big, rather than too small.  Just for the record, average is about 4-5 inches.  You can look hot and please your partner if you’re only packing a 3 inch dick. It’s much more important what it feels like in girth (width) than length.  We can handle  delivering a baby with a head the  size of a cantaloupe, but can only handle a maximum of 5 -6 inches in our little caves. For men struggling with small penis syndrome I have a whole section on this topic and have counseled hundreds of men in my career about their small penis size. I can help with a skype/facetime appointment if you want to reach out.
I’ll give you the dirt on increasing your size, and finding out  what men  really want from thier partners in tomorrow’s blog.  Oh, here is my podcast  on penis size for your listening pleasure.Download sex_with_sue_minute_orgasms.mp3

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Here's a new pill to make Mr. Happy stand at attention

Vitamins The truth as I know it about supplements. There as, yet are no pills to make you bigger. period. Don’t believe it, it is a scam.  I’ve interviewed 2 experts – Mike Bode -Mr. Universe guy, (www.thefitshoppe.com) and Ray Sahelian MD.www.physicianformulas.com (his site tries to sell you stuff, just to warn you…)  There is still no magic pill to help premature ejaculation.  Have a listen to my interview with Mike Bode.
There is however, interesting stuff to enlarge your breasts (the pills causes your breasts to retain fluid), and a bunch of herbal viagra (Valura, and Vigor are the two best known ones), and a few others to cause you to bump up that failing libido.  The news from the Natural Health Expo that happened last week in Anaheim, California was that low carb is out, and cocao and chocolate and NONI juices are in.  Yeah for chocolLove ate lovers.  Now if you could combine chocolate with great sex herbs…hmmmm.
The new siladafil suspension that you can buy over the counter in Mexico, Asia ext is called Kamagra. My clients are having HUGE success with it. If you are struggling and want to talk about it we can do an quick, inexpensive consultation for $75 that will get things moving. Reach out. I want to help.

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The hazard of getting semen on your hands

As I try to anti-spyware my computer, the intrusive, uninvited, assaultive stuff that sneaks on your system and pops up with penis enlargement spam, I am thinking that in many ways spywear is like a date with a creepy guy.  Pushy, smells badly, and keeps trying to get in your pants.
Some women view porn the same way.  In discussions with some women friends yesterday, it was interesting to see their acceptance or complete rejection of “adult material” (the PC term) fell completely along age lines.  Under the age of 40, the women thought it was almost hip, sexy, and something they used in the bedroom to spice things up. And knowing the categories on PornHub was a badge of honour. Over 40 it was like the Erica Jong quote ” that after watching porn for five minutes you wanted to have sex, after watching it for 30 minutes, you never wanted to have sex again.”
It’s amazing to me how quickly sex is changing.  It never ceases to fascinate me, and I still think being a sex therapist is the coolest job in the world.  I don’t know where I was going with this, but as I muse on porn, the evil of computer viruses – (and it was probably my little brother downloading porn onto my computer when he stayed with me between apartments, that brought into the viruses in the first place), and how many keyboards must glow blue like those CSI episodes with “biological fluid”.
I think semen is cool. It balances your mood when your body absorbs it, has more prostoglandins in then the medications they use to induce labor, is good for your bones and teeth and can be hot when you are craving it. Some people find it icky. But it’s essential to reproduction and you may be surprised that your body can actually crave it. There are websites dedicated to the desire and fetish of sex fluids. 
“Definition. Sexual fluid craving is a condition in which a person has feelings of depression, fatigue and even despair that are relieved when they absorb some sexual fluid, usually male sexual fluid. The condition is most common among women. It affects thousands of young women, as well as some young men. The cause appears to be a nutritional deficiency. Sexual fluid then becomes essentially a “food supplement” that some need.”
If you feel the need for the stickiness and taste isn’t just you. I’m not suggesting that if you happen to like cum you have a fetish (you may as anything that borders on obsessive can be) but there are real scientific reasons you may prefer your partner to be wet or ejaculate. Just saying…
Still feeling the love,
Sue

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We know what you are doing in the shower

March 18, 2006
I had a conversation last night with a friend, and like most female conversations it didn’t take too long before it turned to kids, sex, and men. Other popular topics include birthing stories, chocolate, spirituality and shoes…).  Anyway, she was telling me how her now teenage stepson is spending all of his time in the bathroom and using up all of the hot water.  I told her that it was normal and teenage boys masturbate at least once a day, usually in the shower.  She was floored that she hadn’t realized that was what he was doing, and no wonder her hot water bills were so high.
Isn’t that what all guys do in the shower?  I talk to people about sex all day long, every day and men masturbate regularly, and yes, especially in the shower.  The good news is that it’s good for you.  When I started as a sex therapist I used to espouse that sex felt good, was critical for your relationship, but now I tell people, it’s imperative for your health.  It’s at least as good for you as exercise (those 350-500 calorie boff’s), and forget an apple a day, it’s an orgasm a day.  For guys it keeps the pipes clean, scours out the prostate and keeps your sperm fresh and your blood pressure healthy.  For women who masturbate, it keeps the vagina clean and just like a sneeze cleans out the sinus cavity, an orgasm cleans the snatch out of all those viruses, bacteria, and old sperm remnants. Women who give into the urge to play with themselves are 80% less likely to get a vaginal infection.  80%!!!!! Why aren’t there bus ads telling women this?  It’s like the girls who sit in the hot tub, (3rd spigot on the left shoots just the right way….), men in the shower are just emptying out the junk.  Even if it does increase the hydro bill.
Sue