We all know that there is times when you wait by the phone to see if a guy you are interested in might call. That second date, the morning after call, or the casual “let’s get together this weekend” call that doesn’t come. You tell yourself that he’s too busy, or forgot. The truth is that a man will climb mountains to get in touch with a woman he likes.
I have a close male friend in his 40’s who is single, employed, good looking, kind and a good catch. I have intimate knowledge that he isn’t gay. He reguarly has women making suggestions to hook up quite regularly. He was telling me the story about another woman chasing him. Blaik my love was with us and he said “I can sum up the problem in two words -She’s ugly.” The gentleman in question shrugged and said the classic line that “He’s just not that into her, she talks too much”.
So I polled the guys in question and asked “What are the signs that you might be into her?”
Here’s the list:
1. The guy suggest outings or get casual get togethers. Often more than once.
2. He doesn’t mention other women around you. You know, female friends, co-workers even sisters-in law don’t get ANY air time.
3. He listens to your stories and laughs at your jokes. You know when you hang on a guy who you like? Same thing here.
4. The body language is easy to read. He flushes, his pupils dilate, he touches your arm, he “pulls up his socks” (I mean it, watch at any bar), stands with his thumbs on his belt hooks (cowpoke style), leans in etc.
5. He gives you his contact information. He might be too nervous to ask for your number, but he will give you his home, work, cell, email, other email and skype contact on the off chance you might call.
6. He does stuff for you. Offers to help you move, puts a stereo in your car, walk you home, lift something, go shopping (my guy wold rather stab a plastic fork into his eye now, but would go shopping with me when we were dating).
7. Continue the conversation at any cost. He says stupid and inane things just to keep the conversation with you continuing. Runs out of stuff to stay but just hangs around. In fact hovering is one of the true tell-take signs.
8. Will try and get your attention. This is doing something outrageous – think he’ll go over the top to kill the mosquito in your office, or dress up like batman on Halloween.
9. He’s prepared to wait for sex. I mean it, if you are a booty call and won’t put out he’s moving on. If he likes you, then he’ll hang around even if he’s not getting any.
Maria Shriver and the challenges of a 25 year old marriage to Arnold, the Govenator
I’ve always thought Maria Shriver was a class act. Smart, poised, with Kennedy breeding and all the California skinniness (okay so she’s not perfect). The way she’s been handling her current marriage crisis makes me respect her all the more. Obviously devastated at a 10 year betrayal and blindsided by her husband of over 2 decades, Maria is facing an intrusive press with grace and integrity. In all fairness, I think Schwarzenegger has handled the current bombshell as well as can be expected. Asking for privacy for his family, taking responsibility and apologizing to his wife and State he represented is definitely the way to go.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not excusing his behaviour. As a sex therapist, I understand that dalliances happen probably better than anyone. I really, truly believe that men are loyal, but they are all dogs and are white knuckling it when it comes to sexual temptation. And someone willing in your household staff with a busy, traveling wife must have been near impossible to resist. As a therapist, I would have understood that and forgave it knowing what I universally understand about men.
What I find difficult to forgive (as I am sure Maria is too) is the 10 years between the action and the disclosure of not simply an affair, but a child. He must have been walking a very tight line, or had a bunch of staffers covering for him brilliantly to pull it off. I’m really feeling for the 10 year old child at the center of this controversial outcome of two sexual people. It also must be Hell to be the other woman in this scenario and I hope she is getting some support. Sex happens far more than people think. It’s unfortunate that they couldn’t have figured a way out of this before 10 years passed, and this child is denied his/her father, and two families are devastated. On the other hand, I don’t throw rocks and love and forgiveness goes a long way. I hope they find a way.
I’ve said it before, monogamy is a failed experiment with an over 50% divorce rate. Maybe if public figures were more like Maria’s uncles and had both the wife and the mistress (and it was socially condoned) and expected by the white house press core), than there may have been other options to blowing up what was on the surface, a loving and successful partnership.
I just finished an interview with Maria Coletsis of Vancouver yesterday. She’s the professional photographer and researcher who has written the new insightful portrait book called Behind the Whip.
Maria went all over the world photographing and interviewing all of the famous dominatrixes. She said it was fascinating speaking to these women. She explained some cultural differences between these dom’s. As an example, the Japanese doms use intricate rope techniques, the German dom’s are much harsher and use military discipline in their sessions. The British doms’ are all about the naughty school boy and Mommy figures in their play.
Maria explained to me that despite their differences and locations these women were all strong women who were inately kinky. These aren’t “hookers with a crop”, these women all lived the dom lifestyle 24/7 in both their personal and professional lives.
What came out of my discussion for everyday use is how much their clients need to “escape”. The hour a week when they can let go and not be incharge is bliss for these men. The role play and the fantasy varies, but that so many more men are sexually submissive. The clients are all ages, but Maria said two of the men she saw were young, good looking, and successful. They all said that they could NEVER tell their wives their fantasies. So the paid the $400 an hour to be spanked, humiliated, comforted or allowed to play a role. She said they are much more that actresses, but that there is always a part of the dramatic. She also said that the dom’s are completely turned on by their work.
I’ll post the interview and some of the pictures on my www.sexwithsue.com site if you want to hear more about her insights.
I used to have a very bad case of sleep apnea. Needed naps in the afternoon, woke up gasping, and had earthquake-like snoring that moved my partner to another room for years. I once casued an international incident falling asleep on an air plane. I was that loud.
Sleep apnea is casued when the back of your throat closes over your widpipe and cuts off the oxygen while sleeping. The air going through causes your palate to vibrate loudly. My whole famly had problems with it. I describe the group of us ( my amazing family) as “barrels with legs” who had thick necks and short torsos (now doesn’t that sound attractive…) and small, closed off tracheas . Sleep apnea is a very serious issue, and is the cause of more sleep related deaths, heart attacks, and fatigue issues than most people realize. You also walk around like the a cast member from Dawn of the Dead becasue your body keeps jerking you out of sleep in order to breathe. It can impact marriages (certainly sex lives), and leave sufferers chronically exhausted. It also goes (terrifyingly) on your driving record.
To diagnose apnea you go for a sleep test. You end up looking alot like the guy in the picture. They wire you up with electrodes to determine if you have small breathing pauses during the night. I just finished my third of these tests. I’m trying to download the picture of me covered in wires so you can see how attractive I am as the bride of Frankenstein. You don’t get much sleep. You are in a hospital setting and they have a camera watching you dose and listening to your charming sleep sounds. They wake you up if your mask slips of if one of your wires disconect.
On my first sleep test I was diagnosed with severe apnea. My second test involved what I call “sleeping with the elephant”. This is where they put you on a CPAP machine with as long air tube uses air pressure to force the back of your throat open. I ended up ripping it off in the middle of the night and throwing it across the room. Other people love them and couldn’t imagine how they ever slept without it. They wake up rested and oxygenated for the first time in years. I hated the machine and tried it for over a month with no success. I kept taking it off while I slept. So I opted for the UPPP surgery. This involved tearing out my tonsils, my uvula (the dangly thing at the back of your throat), and a good chunk of the soft palate. This surgery is not for the faint of heart. 6 week recovery, and is considered the most painful surgery there is – far more painful than heart surgery. It was Hell but there was an end in sight. And my apnea was severe enough to need treatment.
However it cured my snoring. My sleep test last night was to see if I have fully recovered and past the test. I’ll have my results next week. In the mentime, if your soring has gotten worse, you have over a 16 inch neck (female) or 17 inch neck (male) and you feel tired – you too may have sleep apnea. It’s much more common than you think and I know of two women in their 30′s PERSONALLY, who have died from it. Besides you can end up with the fetching pictures after you get wired up. Talk to your doctor about a sleep referral.
I’ve coined a phrase in my Libido Diet book called ELD. I call it Environmental Libido Disorder. As I kept seeing the same type of woman day after day in my office I thought- there has to be a physical connection. Here’s the checklist for ELD.
1. Petite (under size 10)
2. Fair skined or fine features
3. Food allergy or sensitivity
4. Gastro intestinal variability
5. Good relationship with nice partners but never feels like having sex.
6. Has been on the birth control pill in the past. Often with difficulties.
7. Between the ages of 25-49 and should be reaching their sexual peak.
8. Often has been on antidepressants in the past.
9. Responds quickly to program of suplements, and hormones.
If this sounds like you d’tlet some doctor tell you it’s all in your head. I can turn this around and save your relationship. Download the libido diet or email me at suem@rogers.com for an appointment. I have loads of women who’se husbands are so frustrated and it could cost their marriage.
ELD is a real, physical disorder and you need trained help RIGHT NOW. It’s only going to get worse.
Now compare this to a discussion of sexual anorexica and how it is defined.
I’ve had a number of couples who aren’t having sex and wondered about the anorexia title. I think may coules have what I call ELD (environmental libiodo disorder). Which is a combination of busy lives, high stress cortisol level, medicatios such as the pill and anti depressants, and inflamed colons that chronically lower their libidos.
Sexual anorexia is different. SA can have some of the following symptoms:
-Staying so busy that you have little time for your spouse
-Rather masturbate than have sex with your partner.
– When issues come up your first reflex or response is to blame your spouse
-Withholding sex from your spouse or not being present during sex
-Unwilling or unable to share your authentic feelings with your spouse
-Using anger or silence to control your spouse-
-Having ongoing or ungrounded criticism (spoken or unspoken)
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Controlling or shaming your spouse regarding money or spending
The continuing list of fun and crazy ideas to keep your weekend hot.
Another Friday afternoon and I am busy getting ready for this weekend’s Love and Lipstick show. I’m asking the question, “What is sexy?” It is the hollow in your sweetie’s upper thigh? Is it a freshly washed partner out of the shower. Is it a naked man doing the dishes. I say enthusiastically YES to all of the above.
One of the things I try and do with my patients is put them on a “boot camp program of fun sex ideas” as part of their homework to generate some sparks. I list fun and erotic things to do in Ottawa (or other cities) and encourage couples to ‘kick-start their sex life and re-create sexy”.
In the interest of making suggestions, I’m going to add weekly ideas of fun things to do to make you Saturday or Sunday romps a little more interesting.
Here’s s few. Have a sexy weekend. Smile. And make sure you tune into EZrock 99.7 (.com) this weekend for Love and Lipstick, Sunday 10-12 and Monday 10-12.
Bathtub pleasure for her
Every woman can create pleasure by experimenting in the bathtub. Bath-time is our time alone it our time to relax. It is our time to reflect on the day, it is also our time for us. All right ladies, this is fairly simple: Position yourself so that your clitoris is under the running water with your legs against the tub walls. Now, let the water run wild. If you so chose, you can share this experience with your partner by letting them sit behind you and watch or maybe play with you hair. Make it a sensual experience. If you have no bathtub you can use a removable showerhead. For extra pleasure use the waterproof one-touch wireless bullet and dolphin combo. Remember to clench your muscles so that water does not enter your insides.
Paint my body
Edible body paint can be used all over the body. To try a little something different, try the door jams. With these you can restrain your partner and cover them in the paint and lick them from head toe and watch them squirm in ecstasy because you now have them just where you want them.
Its time for Double Trouble
Ok so the double trouble dong can be a little intimidating. Just forget about all that. This is for arthritic women who have trouble holding a shorter dong. The double trouble dong can also be used women to women. You also never know when it might come in handy!!!
Late night love
Ladies it’s time for a night of love and romance. Hear are some little tips to make your plane Jane bedroom into a sanctuary of love. Start by getting some fabric to help give the room a darker feel for better ambiance. You can also use lots of candles to get that old flame burning again. Cover your bed with some rose petals from our A bed of roses. Try the board game sensations it has some fun toys and is a great game for you and your partner. When everything is done and set up go and slip into you favorite piece of lingerie. The most important part of all of this is to call your partner and make sure that they are not to busy or to tired to do something that night. This is so that you will not disappoint yourself.
Anal fun
Ok so we all know how scary the thought of something the size of a man’s penis fitting into something the size of your pinky finger can be. If you are determined to try this you should start small and work your way up. A great way to start is with anal beads they come in a variety of different sizes it’s always good to get used to something going inside of you first. The most important part of this is lube, lube, and lube. I cannot stress this enough. The great thing about anal beads is when having sex you can pull them out at moment of climax and get an even better feeling. From here you can try going to butt plugs. Then when you feel ready to try the penis you might feel more comfortable. Remember to always go slow, and you should be the one in total control.
Want to spice it up a little try some costumes and out fits. You should talk to each other about your fantasies for example the nurse and patient or the French maid. Let your imagination run wild, and all your dreams come true.
Have you ever had the craving to have sex in crazy places for example outside privately? Well next time you get that feeling act on it. The sheer rush of being outside will excite you and your partner to a new level
GGGGGG-SPOT
This is one of the most important areas for women to focus on there are a couple different methods of trying to find one is with vibrating g-spot finder the other is with your finger making a come-here symbol with your finger. The g-spot is the most sensitive area if you can find and when you do you will never forget it.
The Ice cube
The Ice cube is commonly used in drinks to make them cold well that not true any more. Ice cubes are now commonly used for oral sex by crushing up the ice in your mouth and Proceeding to give the man oral sex. The cube can be used on women by stimulating the clit with a burst of cold. The ice cube can also be a great massage tool on a hot summer night to rub on a hot sweaty body. This can feel very soothing.
Scavenger hunts
Try making a scavenger hunt for your loved one this can be fun and exciting all at the same time. It can go all over the city or just in your own house. You have to start planning ahead early you can make this expensive or very cheap.
Some different ideas for hints could be on the grass staring at stars we shared a kiss. The places you take them to has to have some familiarity to them it cannot be to hard or it will not be fun. You can even try a dinner and have the waiter bring a hint for them. Hide stuff in place that are easy to find but that are not easily stolen by others make sure to have a great prize waiting for them at the end.
Remote controls
Do you like that feeling of being out if control of a situation well if you do I suggest trying a remote control vibrating butterfly they come in two styles purple with glow in the dark penis and a flesh coloured. The butterfly comes with straps so you can wear it. It comes with a small vibrator and a key chain remote control. I would suggest going to cocktail party and wear it know one else knows your wearing and you have no control if you give your partner your remote the only problem is that the remote is universal so any one else in the room is wearing one they will feel the vibrations too.
Striptease a lot of men have fantasy’s of having a women strip for then. Why not let it be you? There is nothing that makes a man hotter than when you’re dancing for him ever so sensually. Start by preparing some music you like and picking out an outfit that he would like. Then start working on a routine that will blow him away. I would suggest checking out some books such, as Bedroom games also there are movies now that can teach you how to strip as well. Take control of the situation and let him sit back and relax.
Try timing your partner. Tell them they have exactly x amount of minutes to get you and themselves undressed. Have an egg timer, or stopwatch to let them know you’re serious. At the end if they do it under the amount allotted they will receive a prize. Make the prize sound so good that there is no way they would want to lose.
Vouchers
Vouchers are a great idea for fresh and new Ideas. You can give them to your partner as a gift or you can make them work for them, and when they have been good you give it to them. You could also try playing a naked scavenger hunt and tell him or her that there is a voucher in the house somewhere that is very knotty.
Honey dust
For those hot summer days when the sweat is rolling off your back, and you still want to
Make love to your partner try using some honey dust it makes your body dry and sweet smelling not to mention a light flavoring this will make the situation a little less sticky. The Kama Sutra line makes a very nice dust as well as the Shunga line. You can even spread some on the bed to keep it dry and smelling fresh.
Make him smile there’s nothing sexier than seeing a man lying in bed laughing not at you but with you. I find a mans smile is so sexy and so irresistible. Have fun with whatever your doing don’t take any thing too seriously. The moments that you spend together will be with you for the rest of your lives, so you might as well enjoy them as much as you can.
Pleasure balm and gels for women I have one word to describe them orgasm. Pleasure balm and gel are easily used you take a tiny drop and rub it on your clit for a bout 20 seconds, and wait all of a sudden you will feel this sudden rush of heat and tingling sensation. This can be used for women who have trouble experiencing orgasms or for women who want multiple orgasms. The gel I would suggest highly would be the O’my pleasure gel.
Do you want to get slippery and slimy. I know this may sound strange, but if you put lube or oil all over your body it can be come quite erotic with your two bodies sliding and rubbing against each other your two bodies becoming one.
I would suggest using the erotic nights poly mattress cover and pillowcases it could become quite messy. Remember to always clean your self after this exercise in side and out. 😉
Tasty temptations
When using lube and any thing to make head taste better try using something natural and that has no sugar in it. The sugar triggers yeast infection in people who are prone to getting them and well you don’t want to ruin you special occasion with an unwanted guest. I would recommend using O’my lube the flavored kind its all natural water based and has no sugar in it.
Porta Muff Couples Play
While inside its container the portamuff is used as a male masturbator. Remove it from its container and it becomes much more. So the first step is to remove it from its container. Then, using flavored lubricant, place the penis inside the portamuff like you would normally. Roll down the rim of the portamuff enough to expose the head of the penis, letting it poke right through. Now provide oral sex to the head of the penis while jerking the penis shaft with the portamuff and voila! Your man will be pleasantly overcome by the sensations of a deep-throating blow-job.
Every woman can create pleasure by experimenting in the bathtub. Bath-time is our time alone it our time to relax. It is our time to reflect on the day, it is also our time for us. All right ladies, this is fairly simple: Position yourself so that your clitoris is under the running water with your legs against the tub walls. Now, let the water run wild. If you so chose, you can share this experience with your partner by letting them sit behind you and watch or maybe play with you hair. Make it a sensual experience. If you have no bathtub you can use a removable showerhead. For extra pleasure use the waterproof one-touch wireless bullet and dolphin combo. Remember to clench your muscles so that water does not enter your insides.
Paint my body
Edible body paint can be used all over the body. To try a little something different, try the door jams. With these you can restrain your partner and cover them in the paint and lick them from head toe and watch them squirm in ecstasy because you now have them just where you want them.
Its time for Double Trouble
Ok so the double trouble dong can be a little intimidating. Just forget about all that. This is for arthritic women who have trouble holding a shorter dong. The double trouble dong can also be used women to women. You also never know when it might come in handy!!!
Late night love
Ladies it’s time for a night of love and romance. Hear are some little tips to make your plane Jane bedroom into a sanctuary of love. Start by getting some fabric to help give the room a darker feel for better ambiance. You can also use lots of candles to get that old flame burning again. Cover your bed with some rose petals from our A bed of roses. Try the board game sensations it has some fun toys and is a great game for you and your partner. When everything is done and set up go and slip into you favorite piece of lingerie. The most important part of all of this is to call your partner and make sure that they are not to busy or to tired to do something that night. This is so that you will not disappoint yourself.
Anal fun
Ok so we all know how scary the thought of something the size of a man’s penis fitting into something the size of your pinky finger can be. If you are determined to try this you should start small and work your way up. A great way to start is with anal beads they come in a variety of different sizes it’s always good to get used to something going inside of you first. The most important part of this is lube, lube, and lube. I cannot stress this enough. The great thing about anal beads is when having sex you can pull them out at moment of climax and get an even better feeling. From here you can try going to butt plugs. Then when you feel ready to try the penis you might feel more comfortable. Remember to always go slow, and you should be the one in total control.
Want to spice it up a little try some costumes and out fits. You should talk to each other about your fantasies for example the nurse and patient or the French maid. Let your imagination run wild, and all your dreams come true.
Have you ever had the craving to have sex in crazy places for example outside privately? Well next time you get that feeling act on it. The sheer rush of being outside will excite you and your partner to a new level
GGGGGG-SPOT
This is one of the most important areas for women to focus on there are a couple different methods of trying to find one is with vibrating g-spot finder the other is with your finger making a come-here symbol with your finger. The g-spot is the most sensitive area if you can find and when you do you will never forget it.
The Ice cube
The Ice cube is commonly used in drinks to make them cold well that not true any more. Ice cubes are now commonly used for oral sex by crushing up the ice in your mouth and Proceeding to give the man oral sex. The cube can be used on women by stimulating the clit with a burst of cold. The ice cube can also be a great massage tool on a hot summer night to rub on a hot sweaty body. This can feel very soothing.
Scavenger hunts
Try making a scavenger hunt for your loved one this can be fun and exciting all at the same time. It can go all over the city or just in your own house. You have to start planning ahead early you can make this expensive or very cheap.
Some different ideas for hints could be on the grass staring at stars we shared a kiss. The places you take them to has to have some familiarity to them it cannot be to hard or it will not be fun. You can even try a dinner and have the waiter bring a hint for them. Hide stuff in place that are easy to find but that are not easily stolen by others make sure to have a great prize waiting for them at the end.
Remote controls
Do you like that feeling of being out if control of a situation well if you do I suggest trying a remote control vibrating butterfly they come in two styles purple with glow in the dark penis and a flesh coloured. The butterfly comes with straps so you can wear it. It comes with a small vibrator and a key chain remote control. I would suggest going to cocktail party and wear it know one else knows your wearing and you have no control if you give your partner your remote the only problem is that the remote is universal so any one else in the room is wearing one they will feel the vibrations too.
Striptease a lot of men have fantasy’s of having a women strip for then. Why not let it be you? There is nothing that makes a man hotter than when you’re dancing for him ever so sensually. Start by preparing some music you like and picking out an outfit that he would like. Then start working on a routine that will blow him away. I would suggest checking out some books such, as Bedroom games also there are movies now that can teach you how to strip as well. Take control of the situation and let him sit back and relax.
Try timing your partner. Tell them they have exactly x amount of minutes to get you and themselves undressed. Have an egg timer, or stopwatch to let them know you’re serious. At the end if they do it under the amount allotted they will receive a prize. Make the prize sound so good that there is no way they would want to lose.
Vouchers
Vouchers are a great idea for fresh and new Ideas. You can give them to your partner as a gift or you can make them work for them, and when they have been good you give it to them. You could also try playing a naked scavenger hunt and tell him or her that there is a voucher in the house somewhere that is very knotty.
Honey dust
For those hot summer days when the sweat is rolling off your back, and you still want to
Make love to your partner try using some honey dust it makes your body dry and sweet smelling not to mention a light flavoring this will make the situation a little less sticky. The Kama Sutra line makes a very nice dust as well as the Shunga line. You can even spread some on the bed to keep it dry and smelling fresh.
Make him smile there’s nothing sexier than seeing a man lying in bed laughing not at you but with you. I find a mans smile is so sexy and so irresistible. Have fun with whatever your doing don’t take any thing too seriously. The moments that you spend together will be with you for the rest of your lives, so you might as well enjoy them as much as you can.
Pleasure balm and gels for women I have one word to describe them orgasm. Pleasure balm and gel are easily used you take a tiny drop and rub it on your clit for a bout 20 seconds, and wait all of a sudden you will feel this sudden rush of heat and tingling sensation. This can be used for women who have trouble experiencing orgasms or for women who want multiple orgasms. The gel I would suggest highly would be the O’my pleasure gel.
Do you want to get slippery and slimy. I know this may sound strange, but if you put lube or oil all over your body it can be come quite erotic with your two bodies sliding and rubbing against each other your two bodies becoming one.
I would suggest using the erotic nights poly mattress cover and pillowcases it could become quite messy. Remember to always clean your self after this exercise in side and out. 😉
Tasty temptations
When using lube and any thing to make head taste better try using something natural and that has no sugar in it. The sugar triggers yeast infection in people who are prone to getting them and well you don’t want to ruin you special occasion with an unwanted guest. I would recommend using O’my lube the flavored kind its all natural water based and has no sugar in it.
Porta Muff Couples Play
While inside its container the portamuff is used as a male masturbator. Remove it from its container and it becomes much more. So the first step is to remove it from its container. Then, using flavored lubricant, place the penis inside the portamuff like you would normally. Roll down the rim of the portamuff enough to expose the head of the penis, letting it poke right through. Now provide oral sex to the head of the penis while jerking the penis shaft with the portamuff and voila! Your man will be pleasantly overcome by the sensations of a deep-throating blow-job.
I am a couple of months away from my last of three HPV inoculations. I had been to a lecture of women doctors and the news about cervical cancer and the virus HPV was very scary. The previous belief suggested that only young women needed the injection. In fact old broads like me couldn’t get it after 35. It turns out that is absolutely false. The cells don’t denature after 30 and the study suggests that up to age 49 and beyond you are atnrisk. So off to the doctor I went for my needle. In Ontario where I live, they give the shot free to grade 8 girls. There has been a push to immunize the boys as well (they are carriers). So far the Province won’t pay for it, but that doesn’t mean that boys don’t need it.
I’ll pay for my son’s shot next year. I’ll tell him it’s in solidarity with the girls in his class. That’s only partially true. It’s responsible to the young women he will have future contact with, but it also might likely prevent him getting throat cancer.
The study from the Univeristy of Ohio says that there is strong evidence linking oral sex and cancer.
Researchers have found a 225 percent increase in oral cancer cases in the US from 1974 to 2007, mainly among white men, Gillison said.
“When you compare people who have an oral infection or not … the single greatest factor is the number of partners on whom the person has performed oral sex,” said Gillison, who has been researching HPV and cancer for 15 years.
“When the number of partners increases, the risk increases,” she said at the American Association for the Advancement of Science meeting in Washington today (AEST).
Previous studies have suggested that people who have performed oral sex on six or more partners over a lifetime face an eight-fold higher risk of acquiring HPV-related head or neck cancer than those with fewer than six partners, she said.
Any time you can eliminate safely a possible cancer shouldn’t you be lining up in droves to get jabbed? According to the doctor I heard spoke at the Federation of Medical Women lecture, there is some evidence that the HPV shot lowers the chance of getting breast cancer! Even if it doesn’t and only prevents cervical and throat cancer- I’m in. And I hope you will be too.
As a therapist with two passports, and a locations in other countries, I tell people I have a global practice. I have patients in 13 different countries and find phone counseling (and now web cam/skype of MSN counseling) so effective I don’t think anyone needs to trudge into an office to “move the chains” in their lives. Why change your therapist if you have to move cities? Why worry about discretion with a sex counseling appointment when it is just as simple and more importantly as effective by phone.
With paypal, credit cards are taken 100% safely and easily. You can send a payment to suem@rogers.com and get started today. I take most of the paties, but Blaik (my fellow therapist with a degree in bio sciences) is around for male clients, or to balance out the couples discussions. We can refer to any number of “out-of-the-park” practitioners if there is something we don’t specialize in.
However, if you aren’t getting enough sex, have a specific issue with coming too quickly (or not at all), or have a desire challenge then we are the therapists for you.
We are often asked about the viability of phone counseling. Most trained therapists read body language for a living and we are no exceptions. The web cam is amazing for picking up nuances, but as a radio host I interpret voices far better than average. And if I miss something I ask tons of questions.
Sometimes it is better to have a cup of tea and one of my amazing oatmeal chocolate chip cookies (okay, so I may be braggin a touch about my cookies) in person. But if you can’t come and sit on my couch, the flexibilty, discretion and warmth of phone and skype appointments get the job done almost as well.
Contact me at suem@rogers.com. I can fit you in this week and get the stress out of your head Let’s take action together. Now.
Sue
Sue is currently working with her partner, Blaik Spratt on a series called The Ethical Hedonist, about the best places and the most unique ways to connect as a couple.
The Ethical Hedonist is about finding ways to re-kindle your relationship by increasing your adrenaline, together. More to come on Adventure Travel from some of the most romantic locations on the planet. It’s abot pleasure seaking with integrity. Best food, best value in abject luxury, best places to frolic naked and how to make friends in hot tubs.
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Sue McGarvie Is Unzipped!
Unzipped aired on Global, in 2006.
Unzipped is a fun, engaging and uproariously entertaining series on the world’s oldest obsession—SEX! Click here for more info>>
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The Libido Diet
Sue’s best selling book called Lean and Lusty- The Libido Diet is guaranteed to improve female libido! more info
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Premature Ejaculation.
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Do you have a specific sexual problem that might benefit from one on one or phone/skype counseling?
I can almost always be the solution to your problem. I have patients all over the world, and unless you are struggling with an issue of sexual addiction (that isn’t a quick cure), I’m confident I can fix you up immediately. My approach isn’t lying on a couch and talking about your Mother. As a global expert in the area of libido, hormones, sexual desire disorders, and disparging sexual appetites, I can usually have you fixed up in one or two sessions. Discreetly, from your own home,with all kinds of follow up handouts (worth over $600), his is less expensive than getting your car fixed. And pays huge dividends with your relationship.
I have had great success in hepng you find love, partners, and getting your very real sexual needs met. Send me an immediate email at suem@rogers.com. I’ll make it painless, effective (guaranteed) and immediate. Let’s talk today.
I have been a sex and relationship therapist for over eighteen years, and I know I can cut to the chase, and solve your problem immediately. Come see me personally for 70 minutes with one on one attention either live in person in Ottawa, or remotely by phone or skype (with webcam). I help people all over the world, and the sessions can be completely anonymous. I can usually get you happily “back in the saddle” confidentially and quickly.
If I can’t solve a problem in one or two visits, there usually is something medically going on, that requires a referral (which I can provide).
I promise I can get you fixed up effectively, and solve what is ever going on in your relationship right now.
Confidential, effective, with email and phone follow up if required. More problems than you think, can be solved with a quick fix. Therapy is about putting heads together and solving the problem today. I am very kind, and my job is to make you feel safe and comfortable. I focus on solutions, and with a background in both physical and psychological solutions, I can identify if a problem is in your head or relationship, or is more medical. I am an expert on sex drive, performance issues (lasting longer, harder, orgasms etc.), sexual obsessions, hormones and marital issues related to sex.
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As one of Canada ’s best known sex therapists, My particular expertise is in how quickly I can address and solve sexual problems.
Within one or two sessions (70 minutes) Sue can evaluate and offer concrete treatment solutions to problems like premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, sexual addiction, low sex drive, different sexual appetites, lack of partners, difficulty reaching orgasm or ejaculating, along with marriage and relationship counseling. The most common thing I see is premature ejaculation, and I have and entire audio training session to solve that “too quick” problem once and for all. Guaranteed to have you lasting longer, and learning how to climax when you want to. Download now on the home page.
The #1 best selling book on hormones, libido and women’s sex drive “The Libido Diet” is the basis for Sue’s speaking tour.
For any other problem in person, you might want to consider seeing me privately.
“My sessions are completely discreet, either in my west end Ottawa home office, ( Rich mond Road and Woodroffe) I can counsel by phone, or by Skype or MSN instant message (either with or without the webcam), with great results.” My job is to make you feel safe and comfortable, and with 15 years of experience, a very relaxed and kind approach, and I am prepared to guarantee my value.
Rates are $140 per session (or $80 per half hour consultation) . Call 613.355.1786 or email suem@rogers.com to make an appointment. Web or phone counseling can be paid easily and securely using Paypal. Order and pay through the website, and get a copy of my #1 best selling book, Quivering Jello, How to Have Mind Blowing, Toe Curling Orgasms, my Top 10 G Spot tips, and my most recent booklet on sex tips!! That is over $350 in value, plus you get one on one counseling with North America ’s leading sex therapist, to solve your problem RIGHT NOW.
Pay pal now for $140, and Sue will immediately send you all the free books and audio extras and set up your immediate counseling session.
Rates are $140 per session. Call 613.355.1786 or email suem@rogers.com to make an appointment. Web or phone counseling can be paid easily and securely using Paypal.
Please feel free to send me an email at sue@sexwithsue.com
If you are looking for a counelling appointment- either in person, by phone, skype or web/cam or for a referral I woud be delighted to speak with you. I guarantee my services and can have you “back in the saddle” with one or two sessions. I have the latest information, all the samples, and a pragmatic approach that kick start your intimacy. And I found out that I was less expensive than my mechanic. So with less time and resources you would ive your car. And your relationship and love life pay bigger dividends.
Email me at suem@rogers.com
I can’t wait to connect with you.
Sue McGarvie presents a funny and fascinating presentation about the nation’s oldest obsession
THE NEWEST IDEAS ON KEEPING
IT HOT AND BEING THE LOVER
YOUR LOVER WANTS YOU TO BE,
BY ONE OF NORTH AMERICA’S
PREMIERE SEX THERAPIST!
Sue McGarvie will, “in the nicest possible way”, take your audience from lube to romance items that require batteries, tongues and toes, and every orifice in between, on your quest to learn what they didn’t teach you in Grade 11 gym class.
Sue, the syndicated talk shoe host of Love and Lipstick, and is the leading Canadian sex therapist in the area of managing libido. Sue’s expertise and experience in Reproductive medicine is sought after, and with a global understanding of the issues surrounding women, Sue offers a practical and truly professional presentation to women’s groups, medical and pharmaceutical audiences, and school and parent groups.
A talk that will have you realizing just how much you didn’t know, Tips, Toys and Techniques, will be a truly fun and memorable way to learn what’s now beyond the birds and the bees.
LEARN WHAT THEY DIDN’T TEACH YOU IN GRADE 11 GYM CLASS.