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Oral Sex and throat cancer. Another reason why EVERYONE needs to get their HPV shot

I am a couple of months away from my last of three HPV inoculations. I had been to a lecture of women doctors and the news about cervical cancer and the virus HPV was very scary. The previous belief suggested that only young women needed the injection. In fact old broads like me couldn’t get it after 35. It turns out that is absolutely false. The cells don’t denature after 30 and the study suggests that up to age 49 and beyond you are atnrisk. So off to the doctor I went for my needle. In Ontario where I live, they give the shot free to grade 8 girls. There has been a push to immunize the boys as well (they are carriers). So far the Province won’t pay for it, but that doesn’t mean that boys don’t need it.
I’ll pay for my son’s shot next year. I’ll tell him it’s in solidarity with the girls in his class. That’s only partially true. It’s responsible to the young women he will have future contact with, but it also might likely prevent him getting throat cancer.
The study from the Univeristy of Ohio says that there is strong evidence linking oral sex and cancer.
Researchers have found a 225 percent increase in oral cancer cases in the US from 1974 to 2007, mainly among white men, Gillison said.
“When you compare people who have an oral infection or not … the single greatest factor is the number of partners on whom the person has performed oral sex,” said Gillison, who has been researching HPV and cancer for 15 years.
“When the number of partners increases, the risk increases,” she said at the American Association for the Advancement of Science meeting in Washington today (AEST).
Previous studies have suggested that people who have performed oral sex on six or more partners over a lifetime face an eight-fold higher risk of acquiring HPV-related head or neck cancer than those with fewer than six partners, she said.
Any time you can eliminate safely a possible cancer shouldn’t you be lining up in droves to get jabbed? According to the doctor I heard spoke at the Federation of Medical Women lecture, there is some evidence that the HPV shot lowers the chance of getting breast cancer! Even if it doesn’t and only prevents cervical and throat cancer- I’m in. And I hope you will be too.

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Sex and Weight Loss – The Sex Diet – How I lost 160 pounds, saw my toes and re-claimed my libido. All while balancing my hormones and trying to find time to do the laundry.

The Libido Diet is the story of how I researched, experimented cajoled, and used myself (and my patients) as guinea pigs to come up with an approach to sexual dysfunction that actually seems to work. I lived this research first hand, and as I changed my hormones I dropped 175 pounds (eek!), which had me chasing my partner around the house christening all the flat surfaces.
The Libido Diet is my story, and the story of women struggling to get back in the saddle and moaning in ecstasy.
The audience for The Libido Diet is primarily for women over 25, right up to menopause in their late 50’s. However the bulk of the women I’m seeing as patients are between 25 and 40 with loving partners. As I sat telling a girlfriend about my approach in treating female sexual dysfunction while sitting at a Starbucks a few weeks ago I had five women around me put down their mugs, strain to overhear, and all ask for my card. Forget eavesdropping on my more outrageous sexual stories on a radio call in sex therapist, these women all wanted to know “how in God’s name can I give myself back the lustful feeling I used to have?” I’m finding it’s a question women everywhere are asking. The Libido Diet answers those questions and comes up with a clear solution like no other book that has come out. It’s finding that horny girl inside you that you used to be. I bet you miss her. And I know your partner misses her too.
As the Libido Coach (and there is no other brand out there like it), I am uniquely qualified to answer the questions about sexual desire. With an established identity and audience (as an International Sex Expert, Syndicated Talk Show How, and television host of a national magazine style sex show), as well as having completed a personal journey related to body image and sexuality enhancement I have literally spoken to 5,000 people about their sex lives. With a acknowledge expertise in women’s sexuality, and fifteen years as one of the leading sex therapists, The Libido Diet tells the truth about my own intimacy transformation, along with the celebrations of the women I coached along with me. It’s the details of how you can kick start your sex drive, done in both a book and engaging audio session. Just hit play on your ipod or cd player, and know you are on your way to having the kind of hot sex you need, want and deserve.
I have all the latest information on bio-identical hormones, (and we are all crazy when we are hormonal), and the latest medical and health information about balancing those out-of-whack hormones. I’ve made it my life’s work to help women “get back that loving feeling”, and I do a Start Me Up program that I GUARANTEE. Hang in there, call me, email me, download this and help is on the way.
Sex and Weight Loss – The Sex Diet
I learned to put my own biochemistry to work. I showed my patients how to maximize their libido with supplements. I gently discovered how to understand my own sexuality, and teach that to my women libido patients.

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The proven ways to increase your libido! From The Author of The Libido Diet


The Libido Diet
by Sue McGarvie, The Libido Coach
Most people think a sex therapist has the world’s most interesting job. Some days they’re right, and you just never know when someone with a cabbage fetish will walk into your office.
The truth is that sex therapists mainly see the same problems day after day. Men usually seek therapy for erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and sexual addiction. Women on the other hand, come to me afraid their relationships will end because they can’t seem to get motivated or interested in having sex with their willing partners.
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Low libido, or female sexual dysfunction related to arousal and lubrication together affects 53% of woman according to The Journal of Sexual Medicine published in 2007.
It’s a monstrous problem not covered in the Cosmo headlines screaming about “more techniques that will drive him wild in bed”. What I’m seeing in my office could be a casting call of women who are telling me the same story. With only a few variations in the script, these women are under or overweight (almost exclusively under size eight or over size 16), have been on the birth control pill, and have food, skin or digestive sensitivities or environmental allergies, and would much rather clean the bathroom than have sex with loving partners. They are sane, normal women who can reach orgasm, and who want to be sexual but can’t seem to get motivated to get in the mood. Many of these women even looked alike. This had to be the same problem.
Most of the traditonal sex therapy for low libido assumed the problem was related to performance, relationship, emotional or psychological problems. However I believe that 90% of male sexual problems are physical in nature and need to be solved that way, so why as therapists and physicians were we assuming women’s libido was all their heads? The problem crystallized for me while sitting on a panel with three gynecologists’ at the National Convention of Family Physicians. They were struggling with libido solutions as the testosterone they were taught to prescribe either wasn’t improving libido in any way or was literally putting hair on the chests of the women that were trying it. Putting me on the hot seat, all the physicians in the room wanted to know how I treated female low libido issues. They didn’t have a solution either.
The Libido Diet is the story of how I researched, experimented cajoled, and used myself (and my patients) as guinea pigs to come up with an approach to sexual dysfunction that actually seems to work. I lived this research first hand, and as I changed my hormones I dropped 175 pounds (eek!), which had me chasing my partner around the house christening all the flat surfaces. I learned to put my own biochemistry to work, and took a bunch of “crunchy granola” herbalist classes to help show my patients how to maximize their libido with supplements. I gently discovered how to understand my own sexuality, and teach that to my women libido patients. The Libido Diet is my story, and the story of women struggling to get back in the saddle and moaning in ecstasy.
The audience for The Libido Diet is primarily for women over 25, right up to menopause in their late 50’s. However the bulk of the women I’m seeing as patients are between 25 and 40 with loving partners. As I sat telling a girlfriend about my approach in treating female sexual dysfunction while sitting at a Starbucks a few weeks ago I had five women around me put down their mugs, strain to overhear, and all ask for my card. Forget eavesdropping on my more outrageous sexual stories on a radio call in sex therapist, these women all wanted to know “how in God’s name can I give myself back the lustful feeling I used to have?” I’m finding it’s a question women everywhere are asking. The Libido Diet answers those questions and comes up with a clear solution like no other book that has come out.
As the Libido Coach (and there is no other brand out there like it), I am uniquely qualified to answer the questions about sexual desire. With an established identity and audience (as an International Sex Expert, Syndicated Talk Show How, and television host of a national magazine style sex show), as well as having completed a personal journey related to body image and sexuality enhancement I have literally spoken to 5,000 people about their sex lives. With a acknowledge expertise in women’s sexuality, and fifteen years as one of the leading sex therapists, The Libido Diet tells the truth about my own intimacy transformation, along with the celebrations of the women I coached along with me. It’s the details of how you can kick start your sex drive, done in both a book and engaging audio session. Just hit play on your ipod or cd player, and know you are on your way to having the kind of hot sex you need, want and deserve.
If you want to talk to me about increasing your sexual desire I can speak to you this week (with privacy and discretion) for $125. Let’s set up a time to talk now.
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Speaking about the birds and the bees


Sue McGarvie presents a funny and fascinating presentation about the nation’s oldest obsession
THE NEWEST IDEAS ON KEEPING
IT HOT AND BEING THE LOVER
YOUR LOVER WANTS YOU TO BE,
BY ONE OF NORTH AMERICA’S
PREMIERE SEX THERAPIST!
Sue McGarvie will, “in the nicest possible way”, take your audience from lube to romance items that require batteries, tongues and toes, and every orifice in between, on your quest to learn what they didn’t teach you in Grade 11 gym class.
Sue, the syndicated talk shoe host of Love and Lipstick, and is the leading Canadian sex therapist in the area of managing libido. Sue’s expertise and experience in Reproductive medicine is sought after, and with a global understanding of the issues surrounding women, Sue offers a practical and truly professional presentation to women’s groups, medical and pharmaceutical audiences, and school and parent groups.
A talk that will have you realizing just how much you didn’t know, Tips, Toys and Techniques, will be a truly fun and memorable way to learn what’s now beyond the birds and the bees.
LEARN WHAT THEY DIDN’T TEACH YOU IN GRADE 11 GYM CLASS.

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Even Superwoman gets stretch marks

HOW MODERN WOMEN CAN KEEP THEIR SANITY EVEN IF THEY CAN’T GET A HANDLE ON THEIR LAUNDRY.
Everything from being the domestic goddess, CEO, and Greenpeace volunteer to the temptress in the bedroom and lego-playing mom in the living room, this talk’s for any women who struggles to be all she
can be. It’s for all women who’s relationships are more e-mail moments than Hallmark moments, who still have chocolate emergencies, and consider a good day, when no one sticks to the floor in the kitchen.
I keep hearing from women that they want to be sexy for their partners but are dealing with a 40 plus hour workday, kids, aging parents, trying not to stick to the floor or squeeze themselves like a sausage into lingerie to keep their lovers satisfied. If that doesn’t sound exhausting and like the opposite of sexy then nothing will.
I spend my days talking about women and low libido. Superwomen syndrome is part of the problem. Let’s talk about how we can increase your body’s libido and how we can keep you sane while trying to do all the things you accomplish in a day.

“STRETCHMARKS” IS THE HILARIOUS, AND CANDID LOOK AT THE ETERNAL STRUGGLE OF THE WORK/FAMILY BALANCE AND THE PRESSURE THAT MODERN WOMEN FEEL TO DO IT ALL.

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HPV shot is important for old broads like me. My arm is still tender from yesterday. Why I got mine and you should get yours

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Trying to migrate myself over to the new forum so we can actually have a conversation which is why I'm posting infrequently here.

Hpv 
In the meantime, I am fetching this little circle bandage on my left arm where I got my shot for the HPV virus. That is the needle they give young women around here in Grade 8 to prevent the 6 out of 100 strains of the virus that cause genital warts and cervical cancer. There has even been some unsubstantated claims that the immunization may help prevent breast cancers.  I don't have that substantiated, but I was scared to death by the lecture last week about how many women were getting aggressive cervical cancers. And getting the shot prevents this cacer. How cool is that? The only cancer you can prevent. Cervical cancer is 100% caused by the HPV virus.

The reason I hadn't had it up to now was that it was beleived to be a young woman's disease. The idea that your cervical cells change and make it less likely for you to get it as you get older. There maybe some truth to the fact that you are less likely to have the take up of the virus as you age.  But the new study that looked at women up to age 49 said we can still get it if we are exposed to the virus at any age. There are women currently dyin at the Ottawa Hospital at 22 and 24 among other ages, so they were likely exposed  between 4 to 8 years earlier.

Hence the reason we give the inoculation to 13 year old girls. The inoculation is a medical breakthrouh, and all of us (unless we are nuns and never plan on having sex)shoul have he shot. The downside is the expense. It is covered under most health insurance, but I paid $170 for the injection. I have to get two more over the next 5 months to be completely covered at an additional $170 each time. That hurt worse than the needle.

Have you heard about the top 8 most dangerous foods! Talk back to me on lovetalkforum.com

Have you read this about the top 8 most dangerous foods?

I was just reading the article about the foods that give you cancer, make you fat, screw up your hormones and are generally really, really bad for you.
They are:
1. High fructose corn syrup. I’ve given up corn products as much as possible. Sometimes corn sugar, this stuff is in everythign and is deadly.
2.Gluten – here’s what it has to say:
Gluten – Elisabeth Hasselbeck of ‘The View’ has recently brought widespread attention to the danger gluten can pose to human health. Sufferers of celiac disease have long avoided the substance, which is found in almost any product made from wheat, oats, barley or rye, but now many who don’t test positive for the disease are identifying as ‘gluten intolerant’ and going ‘G-Free.’ Gastro-intestinal problems are the most common symptom of gluten intolerance
3. Food colouring…yuck
4.Nitrates in hot dogs, bacon and cold meats
5. White flour (and sugar) see above
6. Ractopamine – Approved for use in Canada, ractopamine is a chemical used to make pigs grow more quickly as they approach slaughter. Consequently, levels of the chemical have little time to be processed and can remain at high levels in the eventual product. Ractopamine poses particular danger to those with heart conditions. The product has already been banned by more than 100 countries
7. BHA and BHT – Butylated hydroxyanisole (BHA) and the related compound butylated hydroxytoluene (BHT) are added to foods to help preserve fats and to prevent the foaming of yeast. They are found in butter, chips and even beer. Both compounds have been linked to hyperactivity and to the formation of cancers.
8. Aspartame – Just say no to the Diet Coke (hard I know)

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Why all the sex therapists I know are starting to eat organic and having Green sex. Chemicals are bad for your weenie

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Green
My daughter brought home an Earth Day reminder letter today with suggestions about turning off lights and lighting candles from 8:30 to 9:30 this Saturday night. She's keen (as much I think about staying up late as anything else), and earnestly wrote the time on her calendar.  Coincidently, I also got a new book from Random House in the mail called Eco Sex "Go green between the sheets and make your love life sustainable." It's mainly about making your own massage oils, green sex toys and aphrodisiac carob bars.

I don't know how much stock I put into making my own natural deodorant, but I know two friends who have given up the coloured plastic sex toys made with 4 dioxane and synthetic polymers because they cause rashes.  What is more relevant was some of the off-hand comments about organic foods by author Stephanie Weiss as it relates to sexual functioning. In my practice, I am looking more and more at how junk food affect our urges and aptitudes in the bedroom.

Sex is always your early warning system, and I am seeing more and more weird stuff related to toxins. One of my first questions I ask a patient when I'm doing an intake is " do you or your partner works around chemicals?" I'm convinced that much of the drop of women's libido in North America (affecting 34-41% of women according to the study cited on Oprah) is related to food and environmental toxins. Some of it too much growth hormones in the milk, much is about the soy fillers in many processed foods increasing estrogen (particularly in men). Generally, it's all bad for your sex life.

Don't think it affects you? In the article in Diabetes Care found that people with the highest blood levels of pesticides were 38 more times more likely to have diabetes than those with the lowest levels. And diabetes is a huge problem for sexual functioning. In conversations with some of my sex colleagues, I'm hearing how more and more sex therapists are looking into organic food. I'm adding salba (www.sourcesalba.com) as an antioxidant to every meal, and am now trying it experimentally with those libido women who are desperate to try anything but hormones that put hair on their chest.  Blaik calls them "super seeds" (as I put them on everything from his cereal to chewy smoothies) but they may be known as "sexy seeds" if the research shakes out.

So now I suggest a cleanse, and serious antioxidant and my own personal cocktail of supplements to improve sexual functioning. See my website www.sexwithsue.com and my book The Libido Diet for more specifics on this. But as we head to Mexico (ola) to an eco resort this weekend (solar powered, completely green holiday), this reformed junk food Queen is adding crunchy organic granola to my diet to keep me biting my lip and ensuring a bounce to my step.

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When men should lie to women. Sex, weight, and stuff that makes us go crazy.

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Lies 

I was asked to comment for a magazine article about "the five things men should never tell the truth about".  I'm confident there isn't a "one size fits all rule about it", but there may be some subjects we are far more sensitive about. Nothing like commenting on male penis size, but be careful in answering the question "Am I a better lover than your ex wife?"
 
This email resulted in an interesting discussion with my  partner Blaik.  He thinks men lie about sex (infidelity, masturbation, porn, strip clubs etc). On this we agree. I think women DO NOT want to know about their partner's indiscretions. If you have had a one night stand while drinking too much at a conference for example, that is the last thing your partner should be told. The price you pay for doing something like that is that you have to live with it. If you are feeling guilty, too bad. Don't unburden yourself at your partner's expense.
 
I think men should lie about porn. A majority of men find it necessary for masturbation. I think sex and masturbation is like food and water. Everyone needs both. What they need to stimulate themselves during what is considered a medically necessary release is personal and private. Men are also biologically attracted to "newness". As a sex therapist, I don't believe that occasional porn causes any harm, nor impacts the relationship between couples. It really isn't a partner's business unless it crosses the line and interferes with everyday life.
 
I think men lie about things that women are irrational about. Ex wives and girlfriends, too fat, difficult during PMS, your driving skills, what their friends think of them etc. The old adage that "if you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing" is one wise men seem to follow with their partners. And they feel free to lie. If they do have to tell the truth, it causes a fight, and most men don't want the grief.
 
I mentioned earlier that the universal truths about women are:
 
1.That we all have body image issues (tred gently and lie if you must when talking about a sensitive body part).
2. Is that we all blame ourselves for everything (all the unrest in the universe. In this you should lie if we will freak and feel guilty and beat ourselves up about something outside our control).
3. And we are all crazy when we are hormonal. A gentle mis-truth about little things when we are likely to fly off the handle at anything and everything that one day a month may be a kindness.
 

 

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How too much oral sex can lead to smelly snatches – gasp!

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Snatch1 One of the many very cool things about being a sex therapist is that people tell me things that they never tell anyone else. Thus I seem to get a range of information that I put together that other people don't seem to be aware of. The latest is the correlation that I've become aware of (and that you might not know about) is between vulva odor and oral sex. The mouth bacteria is different (and more potent) than the natural flora present in the vagina. Thus, if a woman is getting licked out, the bacteria in saliva (which loves, warm, moist dark places) starts to grow. It can lead to the unpleasant odor which every sexually active woman (and the men that love them) are familiar with. For a woman with lots of "friends" whose tongues visit regularly, the problems of different bacteria from different people compound.  NOT that I am suggesting that the public service and necessary sexual activity of bush munching be curtailed! I just think it is important for women who Ricive, (and who don't want to smell yucky) to follow a few basis rules.

1. Watch out for smokers down there. Nicotine on tongues and fingers can lead to a nasty vaginal infection. Hand washing and mouth wash should be encouraged.

2. After you have recovered from a good tongue lashing, wash with antibacterial soap like you would your hands.

3. Takeprobiotics (lactobacillius the healthy bacteria found in yogurt, and found anyplace that sells vitamins) as a daily supplement.

4. If it gets too rangy, try my personal favourite cream,Vitaderm. It's an anti inflammatory, cortisol, anti fungal, and antibacterial lotion all in one. It gets rid of anything that's not suppose to be there in less than a day (so you are fresh for the next session.)

If you want to be motivated to follow the rules (instead of just rolling over and going into a contented, post cunnilingus sleep, then read about all the bugs that are naturally present in mouths.

The more than 100 species of bacteria, and hundreds of species of fungi, protozoa, and viruses that have taken up residence in our mouths is difficult to fathom. Microbiologists estimate that, in addition to these known species, there are up to 500 other living, breathing organisms inhabiting our mouths, although only 50 have been identified and named. The sheer number of these creatures is astronomical, considering the fact that our mouths contain more bacteria than the entire world's population, and the fact that our bodies house approximately one trillion bacteria.

What is a person to do about these squatters? Nothing. Our bodies provide an ecosystem for them and, in return, they defend us from the invasion of bad bacteria, viruses, fungi, and protozoa, with the exception of Streptococcus mutants and a couple of other undesirable species.

Our dentists' advice to brush and to floss our teeth on a regular basis should be taken, as doing so helps to maintain healthy levels of these creatures from between 1,000 to 100,000 per tooth.

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DHEA, the hormone you might not know about that affects your sex drive.

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The continuing saga of women and libido loss. It’s a daily battle in my office, and I take the issue seriously. So seriously in fact, that I have spent a bit of time in labs examining molecules and learning the latest about bio-identical hormones and how they can help. I also took my own advice and had my own extensive blood hormonal work up done so I could use myself as the guinea pig. This survey was done by my friend Kent MacLeod at www.nutrichem.com    and it is what they do for Olympic athletes to determine where your oxidative stress, antioxidants, amino acids, urinary organic acids, and essential fatty acids are completely analyzed. It turns out I am low in something called “carnatine”, and my DHEA is outside the normal limits. Just when you think menopause is years out.
DHEA or Dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA) is defined as a multi-functional steroid that has been implicated in a broad range of biological effects in humans and other mammals.  Produced by the adrenal glands (so chronic stress can deplete it and burn out your adrenals), it is what women turn into testosterone.
A normal test fro DHEA is 1.65 to 9.15. Eek! When I explain to my patients that they are having as much luck improving their libido with a supplement of DHEA (available over the counter in the US, and by prescription in Canada).
The herbal supplement of beta hydroxy5 (or synonyms: 3-beta-Hydroxy-5-androsten-17-one, 3.beta.-Hydroxyandrost-5-en-17-one, 3beta-hydroxy-5-androsten-17-one, 3beta-hydroxy-androst-5-en-17-one, 3beta-Hydroxy-D5-androsten-17-one, 3beta-Hydroxyandrost-5-en-17-one, 3beta-Hydroxyandrost-5-ene-17-one, 3-beta-hydroxy-etioallocholan-5-ene-17-one , 5-Androsten-3beta-ol-17-one).
Since libido is a complex issue and it is more than just one  hormone (however each one is important), I’m interested to see if adding some to the mix will impact me (and the women patients who are looking for the whole package of physical, spiritual, emotional, and sexual balance.)
I’ll keep you posted about my journey to keep my hormones perfectly balanced (and keep the hormone crazies at bay). If you have a bit of the crazies, or feel that sexual desire is something that happens to other people (and not you), I encourage you to look for the libido diet  in an earlier blog or schedule an appointment. Let’s get this respoled.

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More about kickstarting female sex drive and the wonders of sprouts and Pomegranate

Techniques Sprouts Pom My sweetie thinks I'm a bit cracked. No more than usual, but since I am reading everything I can get my hands on about women and hormones, I've taken to making jars of sprouts all over the kitchen. The more I understand both medically, clinically and personally about estrogen receptors and phytoestrogen, the better I'm eating.  And sprouts are one of the best thing you can eat to fight estrogen dominance, keep your weight down and your sex drive high. So I now sprout with the best of them.

Here's why it is important to me, and it may be relevant to a woman in your life. Belly fat is a source of estrogen. Lots of belly fat means you are sluggish, cuddly, lots of vaginal secretions,sleep alot, have irregular periods, and become naturally less sexual and sexy. Since I am a woman with curves (and there have been times when I've had lots of curves and belly fat), this is my problem. It may be yours as well. I'm combating the problem with lots of the aforementioned sprouts, as much exercise as I can fit in, and pomegranate juice.

Pomegranate seeds have been used in Middle Eastern countries to treat menopause and hormonal issues for milleniums. Pomegranate contains compounds like punicalagin, antioxidants, flavonoids, and coumestrol.  But it is the only plant currently known to contain estrone. Pomegranate's medicinal ingredients alter the way estrogen receptor cells respomd to the body's own estrogen, which is important for North American women who are overloaded with estrogen from their environment. (source: Vanderhaeghe, and Sexy Hormones).

So, while I manage my body, my crazy hormones, and my life I take a moment to drink some Pom and eat some seeds. All I can say is that I feel good and stay sexy. It's seems to be working for both me and my patients, and I would be happy to field emails about your sex drive issues at sue@sexwithsue.com.

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