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What's new in sex. Unusual sex devices that you may have never heard of, or always wondered about

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We recently got a trial version of The Hustler Channel to test out recently. All in the name of research. Smile. I find the sameness of most porn has me yawning (give me well written erotica any day). However, Hustler has always been known for being a little kinkier. They were the first ones to use ice and glass dildos, the first to use big budget and high art in their shots, and the first to use all those crazy suction devices you see in porn. Apparently, the popular ones these days were designed as a beauty aid by Panasonic. Yup the same guys that make your stereo equipment make a vibrating, sucking blackhead remover that doubles as a clit vacuum suction device. I kid you not. Apparently the older model EH 2500 (which is harder to find) is better than the new "mist remover". Lavender, a vibrating and sucking sensation all together and well worth the price.Pore

If you are looking for a more intense experience, why not consider a TENS machine?  Wikipedia defines it as: "Transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation (TENS or TeNS) is the application of electrical current through the skin for paincontrol. The unit is usually connected to the skin using two or more electrodes." A low level electrical impulse that can cause pain, but distract the brain from other chronic pain sensations. It is apparently all the rage with the dominatrixes, and can bring on P spot or prostate tickle in men when attached to the perineum (the area between the testicles and anus).

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Breast pumping equipment is similar to that of the clitoral suction, but much more localized. For many women with sensitive nipples, it can be the height of sensual pleasure. I knew one woman who could reach orgasm by using her nursing breast pump. I like www.medicaltoys.com for a variety of devices (don't go to this site at work, but it is fun to look at all the stuff). Since Valentines is coming up, you might want to get a jump on ordering and give your sweetie something really unique as a present. You can say that "hustler recommended it".

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It's always a good day when you get a new sex toy

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We-vibe_lrg I was speaking at Sexapalooza a few weeks ago and as I got off the podium, I was handed a gift. It was my very own we vibe, invented and designed in Canada and is now THE toy that heterosexual couples need in their bedside table. Thanks Bruce! I know what you're thinking. Another disappointing toy. Nope, this one is different. It's revolutionary in a couple of ways. It has no batteries (yeah! as I'm always losing those blasted things anyway), it comes in it's own case (a fetching purple), and has no protruding parts (the on/off switch is buried inside the silicone so not to rub on your neither regions), and has it's own charging feature, and holds it's charge for a good long time.

It has two speeds – low/high and has some decent torque. The bottom slides inside the vagina, while the top part stimulates clitorally, and stays in place well. A good shape, and it had an elegant feel as to not to feel the least bit uncomfortable anywhere. On the whole, I liked it moderately well as a solo toy. Given I still prefer my clitoral toys to plug into the wall and give me uncontested power, so even with the dual vibration I found the we vibe wasn't as strong as I like it.

However the beauty of the we vibe is as a couples toy. Put it inside and then have your partner penetrate you simultaneously. It may look awkward (like there isn't enough space), but trust me, it just makes the whole experience snugger. The vibration hits both partners together and it was a terrific sensation. We loved it. The we vibe has recently won some prestigious sex toy awards, and with good reason. An incredible innovation and  design in a traditional marketplace. The nice thing is that it was done – not by the big boys at Doc Johnson or Cal Exotica, but by a small company that re-mortgaged their house to bring it to market. If you are in the market for a sex toy for your sweetie this Valentine's Day – this is the best one I've come across in a long while. Enjoy.

The timing of sex

Bi2 There is something so absolutely decadent about an afternoon boff or nooner, on a day when one is supose to be hard at work. I wondered how many other women thought that mid afternoon was the perfect time to engage?  A quick google search and 36% of women said afternoon or late afternoon was the best time.  They were the most relaxed, still had "good hair" wasn’t too tired, or rushed getting off to work a la morning romp, and found that afternoons, energized them for dinner.

I for one love that languid afterglow of having been well and truly laid out on the couch. Makes me wonder what all the working stiffs were doing today?

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the Huey Lewis song, only about sex toys

I was re-living the 80’s the other day.  "I wanna new Drug" the Huey Lewis song, Huey about finding the perfect drug that would instantly make you  feel perfect.  Well I want the perfect sex drug or toy.  Don’t get me wrong, there are alot of great sex toys, (my favourite is still my 30 year old Phillips) but I want the instant-take-a-pill and have an sensational orgasm kind of orgasm in a jar. Batteries may or may not be included.

So many women I see in my practice are still struggling to reach an orgasm.  Two of my closest girlfriends (despite being very sexually active), both don’t ever climax.  Feel good, yes, orgasm no.

How can we fix such an injustice?  I thought the solution was a Willy Wonka type orgasm pill. I had high hopes for that anti-depressant that had you reaching orgasms when you sneezed (and hey, if the technology and bio chemistry can do it once, you should be able to replicate it in the perfect drug).

I want a grant to research that. The sex drug, I can see the marketing now. I won’t give you the munchies, and you don’t even need a partner.  Now that’s medication that could save the world.

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The best spring toys cont.

Although I didn’t get to the AVN show this year in Vegas, I did get a package of propoganda along with the list of amazing new products.  Like in every year, they range from the mediocre, the fantastic, the lousy and the downright bizarre. Here are a couple more of my must-haves.
1. Oh my lube in my favorite new flavour – low-fat, de-caf cappiciano flavor.
2. The vibrating duck. – Man does this new toy torque!!!!  Makes bathtime ever so much more fun.Duck
3. Waterproof Jelly G – Spot

Considering that the best G- Spot orgasms will make you with you were in scuba gear, one for the bathtub, hot tub, lake etc. seems like a great idea. Covered in comfortable jelly with extra girth, so they press into you when they need to, the G Spot vibes, always have that little hook, that presses around your pubic bone. With the G Spot vibes, you can either get there or not (My doctor describes it as having to pick his wife up with his fingers…), depending on how close your G- Spot is to the surface of the vagina. Still, if you like internal stimulation, this is one of the best.Gspot

4. Senso – (Pretend Blue Squishy Vagina)

This is a great pretend artificial vagina. It’s considered one of the 7 wonders of the world for the guys who have tried it. Perfect for business trips (you can then use it for phone sex and stay connected), it doesn’t trip the metal detector, and fits snuggly in your hand, and around other more protruding parts. It might not look like much, the shape isn’t quite inviting, but I have it on great authority, it feels sooooo great. It is not vibrating, but it will give you a much better sensation than the cheap vibrating models. With thousands of different toys for women, the ones for men all resemble a tube and a whole. This and the Fleshlight are the top of the line.

5. Fleshlight 2

Okay, this is the toy you can hide in your “toolbox” and know one will be the wiser. Well constructed, well made and with a great hook on that tube and hole thing, With the lid on, this discreet male masturbation toy resembles an over sized flashlight, but twist the lid off and a sumptuous pink mouth appears. These are so cool.  If I had a penis, I would want one of these. Makes a great gift for the handyman in your life.

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And your Mother won't find it in your sock drawer

Happy Easter. There are lots of sex topics that work with major holidays, but Ester usually isn’t opn of them. For wome chocolates are always a good choice, because it puts us in the mood. Not just because it contains phenelethamine (sp?), but the sugar, caffeine and combination of other magic things we love can take us from hom hum, to "do me babe" in a short period of time. ChocolateI have a friend that says you give a woman flowers in public, but choclate in private.  You’ll likely get some action, trust me.

The other must have thing for Easter is one of my 10 sexy must have things, known as the vibro egg.  The perfect Easter gift, under $20, comes in different colors, easy to hold (that universal shape), vibrates like mad, great inside, outside, around the head of the penis or back of the testicles, nipples, or where ever needs a little stimulation. It has the added benefiit of not looking like a sex toy if your mom happens to find it in your sock drawer….Vibro_egg2

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Okay, even more sex toys

I wrote a bunch of content for my new podcast, but until my computer gets fixed, we get to do it the old fashioned way.
Anyway, here are a few more toys I like.  I’ll get through my list of cool sex toys this week, and then I’ll start on the audio podcasting.  Then you can listen as well as read.Bush_with_rabbit  I think everyone needs a toy as a stress reliever.  Here’s a pic with Mr. Bush and the ever popular rabbit. (and we know how stressed “shrubby” is these days…)

The Egg and Dual Bullets Combo

This is the toy that if your Mom finds in your sock drawer, she won’t know that it’s actually for putting a smile on your face. They’ll never get in the way, but they’ll take you all the way!  Most sex toys don’t even compare to this one but you get two together, they fit in, on or around every orifice in your body. The universal shape, can put it inside, outside, against the head of the penis, nipples, and in combination against the testicles, it’s great alone, but it’s real beauty is as a tandem toy. Think two for the price of one- this is a great starter toy.

Waterproof Jelly G – Spot

Considering that the best G- Spot orgasms will make you with you were in scuba gear, one for the bathtub, hot tub, lake etc. seems like a great idea. Covered in comfortable jelly with extra girth, so they press into you when they need to, the G Spot vibes, always have that little hook, that presses around your pubic bone. With the G Spot vibes, you can either get there or not (My doctor describes it as having to pick his wife up with his fingers…), depending on how close your G- Spot is to the surface of the vagina. Still, if you like internal stimulation, this is one of the best.

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UPDATE!
My new favourite is one called the Zumio which looks like a dental instrument.  Localized, powerful and amazing for everything from nipple stimulation to specific clitoral acceleration. The Duckling social group were giving them out freely as part of the toy testing council. The Ducks now number over 10,000 members so find out more!

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The sex toys continue

I get all the cool sex toy catalogues from the manufacturers and I’m overwhelmed. Go to some of the “marital aids” websites, and be prepared for every color, size and pictures (usually penetrating some orfice). Now I’m about as far away from a prude as you can get, but I find graphic pictures when all I really want is information, somewhat assaultive.  I still use my old Phillips beauty set that I got as a Christmas present as a teen as my #1 toy and the damn thing is over 20 years old!  New isn’t necessarily better, it’s what works for you.  I like the plug in’s (because I HATE being out of batteries when I want to play), but there are some good ones to know about of late.  Catch my earlier blog about why it’s essential for women to get a toy and mastrbate.
1. Pain, stress relief, lowers blood pressure, improves the pelvic floor muscles and a host of other general health benefits. 2.If you can’t play with your own equipment, you shouldn’t be playing with anyone elses. Besides, how are you going to show someone what you like, if you don’t know? 3. Women who touch themselves when they feel the urge are 85-90% less likely to get a vaginal/yeast/genital infection.  Yup, you read that right.  Just like sneezing clears your sinus cavity, orgasms flush out old sprem cells, bacteria, viruses and other nasties lurking in your twat. Climax, and they are washed away with the tidal wave.  If you don’t believe me, read Robin Baker’s book Sperm Wars, the best researched book on evolutionary biology I’ve found
So, just for the record, here are some of my favourite toys, with brief descriptions on  how you shoud use them….
Great finger vibe FK 9000 This was the “sex toy of the year” in 2003, and have been going through evolutions ever since. Small, quite, with this cool pouch (complete with belt loop!!!!) so you can pretend it’s a cell phone for those emergency work days. Possibly the world’s smallest vibrator (actually it isn’t, but you could say “possibly”). It fits on your finger and provides an amazing tease.  These finger mounted sex toys have an incredible 9000 vibrations per minute. Yeah!. It is entirely wireless and little clips to hold it securely on your finger. It also comes with extra batteries. Great for external clitoral or prostate (P spot) stimulation. The only downside to these toys is that these little batteries, while great for specific stimulation, making it small and convenient, don’t pack the serious power of some of the bigger toys. Don’t get me wrong, you’ll get off, but if you are the give-me-the-power-turn-it-up-to-11 kind of person these little sweeties may not have the torque you need.
The Amazing, Stupendous Rabbit Immortalized forever on Sex in the City, (this is the one that Charlotte bought and then stopped leaving the house, and Miranda and Carey had to do a Rabbit intervention after finding her disheveled and completely satisfied), This is a great, wonderful, must-have, incredible toy that you buy for yourself or for any woman in your life, -think bridal shower, sister’s birthday, grumpy boss, whomever…. Lot’s of guys claim to be jealous that they can’t move like that. I say that it means less work for the guys, and if you’re a smart guy, you get her close with the Rabbit , and then come in for the finish and end up a hero. Besides what else are we to do during hunting season, the World Series, and business trips??? These vibrators have a penis head and a bulge in the middle with Wiggly moving parts. More to come on tomorrow’s blog