I’ve got a new book to share to clients and Duckling members.
It’s an ebook called your sex bucket list that I will happily email to you if you reach out to me. It’s been interesting interviewing clients and group members about the kind of things they want to try sexually and this and other information can offer up some great sex ideas that may not have occurred to you.
Talking about a wish list is more than fantasy. I may have a fantasy about a sex scene with people dressed up like the cast of Scooby Doo but it’s not something I’m going to try. On the other hand I do want to play with a variety of floggers with my partner to see which one he responds to best. That’s a bucket list item. And trying to walk the line in my head between fantasy and wish list has been a fun exercise while I’m stuck inside during the pandemic. Talking also been a great way to see the differences between how men and women think about sex. For me a checklist of crazy ideas from gentle touch to fantasies that involve yodeling and cream cheese (and everything in between and far after) has me a good reminder of the breadth of human sexual imagination.
There are a couple of lists online (Cosmo truth be told seems a little ho hum) but they give you a starting place. And if you are kinkier than usual try going through some of the product suggestions on the extreme restraints site.
So if sex is your hobby (and it’s certainly mine) then I encourage you to start a running list of things you want to try in bed. It helps build your sex IQ. And if you want to talk about making it happen in the form of a 30 or 60 minute session with me inexpensively then I encourage you to book a skype/facetime/messenger appointment.
Here’s a starting list. Check off all that might apply and then show your partner….
1. Kiss a girl
2. Have anal
3. Have a threesome
4. Engage in group sex
5. Have phone sex
6. Masturbate
7. Use a vibrator
8. Use a sex toy on someone else
9. Be tied up
10. Tie someone up
11. Have sex in a public space
12. Be a voyeur and watch others having sex (live, porn does not count)
13. Sex in a car
14. Sex at a drive-in
15. Mile-high club
16. Sex with a stranger
17. One-night stand
18. Married sex (the best kind, in my opinion)
19. Sex on a boat
20. Sex in a body of water
21. Light spanking
22. Read erotica
23. Play strip poker/Monopoly/card game
24. Sex in the shower
25. Sex standing up against a wall
26. Sex in a tent in the wilderness
27. Sex with no kissing
28. Sex in the pitch black
29. Sex in the broad daylight
30. Making out with no sex long after you’re no longer a virgin
31. Blindfolded
32. Watch porn together
33. Watch porn alone
34. Learn to give yourself multiple orgasms
35. Sex on the beach
36. Using ice sexually
37. Sexual role play
38. Whipped cream
39. La Perla lingerie sex
40. Frederick’s of Hollywood lingerie sex
41. A quickie in a skirt
42. Sex with someone much older
43. Sex with someone younger (legal!)
44. Sex in a foreign country, possibly with a foreigner
45. A longie in the rain
46. Sex in the ocean while people swim all around you
47. Feather ticklers
48. Sex while “altered” whether by alcohol or something else
49. Learn to orgasm in less than five minutes from intercourse alone
50. Silent sex in a full house
