Why even the chief of the US intelligence service thinks erotica is essential.

Why even the chief of the US intelligence service thinks erotica is essential.

There is a great article in the Guardian today that talks about the new top American spy Avril Haines who has just been confirmed to lead all 16 of the US intelligence services. Apparently besides being a pilot, physicist, mechanic, judo expert, she also read erotica at a brothel she and her partner owned in Baltimore. She is unapologetic about the need for the erotic in the modern world.

“In Fells Point, a formerly dodgy area of Baltimore that was gentrifying, the shop succeeded, through hard work and innovations like erotic literature evenings upstairs in the former brothel, where Haines would read extracts.

She defined the genre to the Baltimore Sun in 1995 as as “everything that’s repressed, guttural, instinctual, chaotic and creative”.

“Erotica has become more prevalent because people are trying to have sex without having sex,” Haines said. “Others are trying to find new fantasies to make their monogamous relationships more satisfying … What the erotic offers is spontaneity, twists and turns. And it affects everyone.”

As part of staying connected to my sex-positive social group the Ducklings we have set up Zoom erotic bedtime stories a few times a month. It regularly attracts more than 50 listeners to erotic passages, poetry, and written stories from members. It’s for couples, singles, triads, friends & comes across as warm, inclusive, and incredibly intimate. Erotica – and the passages people pick to read- allows us to get to know acquaintances faster than just about anything else. Sex is close to the bone and reflects who we are as real people.

If you haven’t read erotica I invite you to join in on one of our erotic reading nights by Zoom. It’s free and welcoming. Otherwise read some of the best sex scenes in some classic literature and see if there is anything that resonates. Sex and our sexuality is part of the human condition. And as Avril Haines summarizes, “erotica affects everyone”.