I was at a great presentation at the Queen’s University Executive training school yesterday. I actually brought my mom (as part of her Mother’s day gift). The speaker, Kerry Munro is an old family friend (Mom had to tell the women sitting next to us that “she used to change his diapers…”. groan). Anyway it was great content, and it struck me that these social connections I was told about are great for sex.
So I went looking. Search twitter (I didn’t know until yesterday you could do that either) I found these twitter quickies…. “Great dismount”, “Had a nooner and I was awesome” “Following Matt Lauer’s infidelity”.
Or how about this one: Google Thinks Sexual Older Women Are Gross, But “Sugar Daddies” A-OK, Sexual Fantasy: More Previews of Jake Gyllenhaal in “Prince of Persia”, Men also get genital yeast infection, no symptoms, pass to their sexual partner.
Social media at its finest. The challenges are that much of our sex education comes in sound bites and Twitter feeds. A Trying to navigate to get clear information about your sex life can sometimes feel overwhelming.
So more Miss Universe and now some hot model (albeit an Amish one ) has been caught posing suggestively? Big yawn, of course they have. Just in case someone hasn't mentioned it before, sex sells. And it is fun to pose in a way that makes you look sexy and attractive. And everyone is inclined to get in on it. Even Miey Cirus's squeaky clean girl image will try and show some skin. Have you seen the new Hannah Montana video? If you're beautiful, famous or both someone is going to want to take your pictire. What is it about skin that has everyone all atwitter? (see the Twitter comments)
Like the quote attributed to the hottest pin up girl of all time (50's movie star Bettie Page) "To be naked is to be oneself. To be nude is to be seen naked by others and yet not recognized for oneself". It turns out that because we can wear clothes, we can motify our looks like nothing else in the animal kingdom. I think we need to get a grip on our reactions to nude pictures. I think nudity allows us to stop hiding and really get comfortable in our own skin. For couples struggling to be intimate, I get them to spend some time being naked. Especially outside. It is one of the simplest and most effective suggestions I can make as a sex therapist.
So there are some very attractive women who have taken off thier clothes…. And other people like to look at them. That and Tiger Wood's sexual compulsions make the top stories of the day? Just because they entre a beauty pagent, or come from a very traditional culture doesn't mean that they aren't sexual beings. We are all sexual, and some of us look better naked. Why do we assume becuase someone has notary, do they have a responbsiblity to have mosre subdued behaviour and not pose naked? So says beauty pagent officials.
Where am I going with this? Don't know, but just shake my head wondering what all the fuss is about. Besides, I thought you would want to see the pictures to see what all the fuss was about.